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This is the site for you!Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-83326832014205081282009-03-05T09:11:00.000-08:002009-03-05T09:41:24.080-08:00Online dating profile writing tips: Make your descriptions LIKE DARTS<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNntliJHIBtZ3cBoEM29LNhuVDyKWlATsk5JmhsFFyb5qJhK3GVuqTBE7tk7KRETRByFutDQGhfLlm7oeuaePdWsURlgtj3Iq5X2I4XH9H1KCxyTPg0cdv2UBfUM-NCSuDHNpgyfKITn45/s1600-h/darts.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5309758731091506018" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 259px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 186px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNntliJHIBtZ3cBoEM29LNhuVDyKWlATsk5JmhsFFyb5qJhK3GVuqTBE7tk7KRETRByFutDQGhfLlm7oeuaePdWsURlgtj3Iq5X2I4XH9H1KCxyTPg0cdv2UBfUM-NCSuDHNpgyfKITn45/s320/darts.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Have you ever thrown a dart that didn’t have a pointed tip? </div><div></div><div>Like you unscrew the weighted sharp metal tip, and just toss the feathered shaft? </div><div> </div><div>Wanna know what happens?<br /><br />It bounces off the target.<br /><br />Now stick that pointed tip back on there and BOOM! It sinks deep into the target and stays.<br /><br />So what’s my, um... point?<br /><br />Your online dating profile descriptions need to have a pointed tip, so they stick in the reader’s mind. And how do you do this? <strong>Images.</strong><br /><br />Each thing you decide should be illustrated by a story or example (this is the weighted part of the dart) that contains <em>ONE KEY IMAGE</em> (this is the pointed tip of the dart).<br /><br />See, people remember images much better than they remember anything else. So if you want to describe in your dating profile the trait of loyalty (the feathered shaft of the dart), then you need to illustrate it with an example (the weighted head of the dart that gives it heft), and, here is the critical part... that illustrated example must have one key image (the sharp point that sticks in the target).<br /><br />An example? Sure.<br /><br />Let’s say I wanted people reading my online dating profile on Craigslist to know that I was athletic.<br /><br />Stage one, the feathers of the dart: <em>“I’m athletic.”</em> </div><div>Ok, that defines the direction you are going, but is going to fall flat instantly.<br /><br />Stage two, add the weight: <em>“I work out at the gym every week.”</em> </div><div>Ah, that will make it fly a lot further.<br /><br />Stage three, add the sharp point: <em>“Sure my dingy green gym always seems to be filled with sweaty wrinkly old people, but I still work out every week.”</em><br />Bam!</div><div></div><div>That image, although not the prettiest ever, will stick. They will forget that you are athletic, they will forget that you work out every week... but they will not forget your dingy green gym full of sweaty wrinkly old people!<br /><br />WARNING:<br />You can overuse this technique! </div><div>You are NOT writing a cheesy romance novel. Don’t add 4 syllable adjectives and adverbs to everything you talk about. This is lame and makes you look like a sleezebag. One key trait = one key image, no more! And don't write cheese.<br /><br />For example, this is BAD:<br /><em>“You can find me at the gym, panting hotly as my huge thick biceps pump cold hard steel up and down, up and down, until my long hair falls over my eyes and sweat drips down my bulging smooth chest.”</em> </div><div>I’m obviously writing to men here. I’ve never seen a woman write anything like that ever, but I’m sure it would be a hit. ;)<br /><br />Cheers and happy dating in ’09!<br /><br />Dylan<br /><br />PS. Just so you know, the image of you looking down on old people may make you look shallow, and might only draw shallow narcissists who also look down on wrinkly old people, to your profile. Use at your own risk. </div>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com16tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-48597392165252404862008-10-13T14:27:00.000-07:002008-10-13T14:30:02.293-07:00craigslist.org dating tips onlineSo you want to date on craigslist.org personals section? It can be extremely competitive, but also extremely rewarding. Here are some tips that will help you succeed:<br /><br />1.<br />Post your own ad instead of replying to others. This is a matter of numbers... if you have your own ad up there, you’ll get a way better result for the time you put it. Having people come to you is better than fighting the competition and replying to someone else’s ad. Also, the vast majority of people dating on Craigslist are browsing ads, not posting them, so by placing your own ad, you’ll tap into the main bulk of Craigslist daters.<br /><br />2.<br />Have 4 photos, all of them good, all of them of you. You know that people reading Craigslist personals always skip down the listings to the posts with photos attached, right? If you don’t have a picture, don’t bother playing the game at all. Having said that, your picture must be of YOU... not a sunset, not a rose, not even a super close-up of your eye... these are just ways of cheating the reader, and people know it. If you really want to shine over the other posts, use four photos (the Craigslist max), make all of them of you, and all of them good (see my article on how to have good photos!)<br />Tips on having a good photo:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/online-dating-photo-tips">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/online-dating-photo-tips</a><br />Tips for women on what photo NOT to use:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/bad-online-dating-profile-photos">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/bad-online-dating-profile-photos</a><br /><br />3.<br />Don’t try to be cool and quirky. For some reason, people think posting quizzes, political views, and “10 weird things about me” is a great way to date on Craigslist. Don’t do this. Instead, be yourself and write a post that represents who you are and highlights the most attractive aspects of your life (ie. A dating profile). All the standard Online Casanova rules apply here: show don’t tell, be funny and unique, showcase your most valuable masculine/feminine traits... and so on.<br /><br />4.<br />Headlines count! Online dating headlines aren’t as important on sites where your picture shows up in the profile list... but in Craigslist, where it doesn’t, you need to pay more attention to the headline. For starters, read my article on bad online dating headlines here:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/Online-dating-headlines">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/Online-dating-headlines</a><br />Then try to create something unique, funny, or visual. Don’t stop with the first one, write many and test them against each other.<br /><br /><br />5.<br />And finally... put some effort in! If you look at a lot of craigslist.org “men seeking women” and “women seeking men” posts, you’ll be horrified by how weak an attempt some people make. You should put in a minimum of 300 words, spaced out to 4 or 5 unique paragraphs... don’t clump it all together. Sometimes the best way to stand out from the crowd is just to show up and do a good job!<br /><br />Happy dating!<br /><br />Dylan AlexanderDylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com18tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-39640986904100878672008-08-15T08:38:00.000-07:002008-08-15T08:44:59.169-07:00Online Dating Tips - Profile writing advice on cooking!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJEx1Gdz-sm7jfn8_IFjMTUTuiibPdLzqrjVSs4YXpY8-OORjNjJ3RMw7jCzODoYtTiY5gVBAou_y-oiTamT_czTS8MEWe8oRZm7TltO0mYKye82ysDhn8OqsDrHvoX41wE6p_tIcZJZ66/s1600-h/uk2.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5234770324853859586" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJEx1Gdz-sm7jfn8_IFjMTUTuiibPdLzqrjVSs4YXpY8-OORjNjJ3RMw7jCzODoYtTiY5gVBAou_y-oiTamT_czTS8MEWe8oRZm7TltO0mYKye82ysDhn8OqsDrHvoX41wE6p_tIcZJZ66/s320/uk2.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Some online dating profile writing advice today...</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>I have bad news for all the guys who write about cooking for women in their profile... It has become an online dating cliché... one of those things that used to be unique, until 500,000 other guys started writing nearly the same thing too. If all your competition is saying the same thing, it holds little value at all for you.<br /><br />Yes, you can jazz it up with all sorts of wonderful, descriptive details about succulent meats, crisp fresh vegetables and rare red wines... but when it comes down to it, you are still conveying the same thing as everyone else.<br /><br />And the rule is... if every other guy is doing it, it’s bad. Period.<br /><br />So am I telling you to kill any talk of cooking out of your profile? No. Instead, we’re going to kick it up a notch. BAM! (sorry Emeril). Remember rule #1 of online dating... BE DIFFERENT. So we are going to take cooking and spin it with something else.<br /><br />Here are a few clips I’ve used to stand out from the crowd when it comes to talking about food. Sure, you can “borrow” them outright, but you’ll have better luck if you can adapt them to your own situation.<br /><br /><br /><blockquote>“I love to cook... but apparently so does every other guy on here, so I’m not going to bore you with details of what my kitchen smells like or how much you’ll drool at the table... because we’ll rarely eat at my place! I think if you have a great meal, you should also have a great location, so I’ve become the master of the picnic! I have 8 great spots around town, secluded, but with fantastic views that I’d love to take you to... you... me... dinner under the stars...”<br /></blockquote><br />The focus of this is to point out that you aren’t like other guys. The picnics are unique (a classic romantic image) and including her in the image/scenario never hurts. You could go on to describe what you are eating, or where you would take her, but a good picnic is absolutely a winner... and a rarity. Of course, this is for fair weather dating only...<br /><br />Here’s another.<br /><br /><br /><blockquote>“You know where I’d love to take you on a date? The drive in. Come on, how long has it been since you’ve gone to one? Me, you, a screen the size of a building... and of course, I’m packing our own food... some pre-made BBQ chicken skewers, roasted potatoes, Greek salad, and a classic red wine... and of course, hot buttered popcorn from the concession building for dessert!”</blockquote><br /><br />Of course, if you don’t have a drive-in theater near you, this one doesn’t apply. If you do, it’s both a money date, and a fantastic hook in your profile.<br /><br />And yet one more.<br /><br /><blockquote>“Apparently, I’m the only guy on this site who ISN’T an aspiring gourmet chef... No, I’ve never taken cooking lessons, and my kitchen isn’t filled with aromas of stinky French cheeses and savory fresh weeds... Oh, I did consider cooking lessons, but I figured I’ve gotten this far on the skills mom taught me, I’d save my time and take massage lessons instead. I figured, after a long hard day at work, a foot rub always trumps a hot meal!”<br /></blockquote><br />This is the most definitive way of being different... shout it out up front! Poke a little fun at all the other guys! Women reading hundreds of men’s profiles will relate. You do need to fill in the blank with something else, in this case I chose massage skills, but it could be anything else, dancing skills or whatever... and of course, the shout out to good old mom never hurts.<br /><br />Remember, whatever you do, it has to be significantly different than everyone else!<br /><br />Cheers and happy dating!<br /><br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br />PS. A quick plug for my book, Online Casanova, which has a whole chapter on the art of mastering descriptive writing, and another on displaying value. Check it out:<br /><a href="http://onlinecasanova.com/salespage_men.php">http://onlinecasanova.com/salespage_men.php</a><br /> </div>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-59011263923148114782008-08-01T09:25:00.000-07:002008-11-12T22:34:44.947-08:00Online Dating Advice - Women's top 5 online dating profile turn ons<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgjyaprfrtcqyvlPrAV8sX0JNN6rqOfcdcFkvDbqM4a_ShsYcGrwckPWL8mHSnUjBlowKpLE1U60OZ8UgmFSYy34WoyjjTiJe6chXsyCS8hBs4ZoGLNAH_y6cB-soFHR1P_fWvovU_ZFWai/s1600-h/iStock_000004302665XSmall.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5229587451171966754" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgjyaprfrtcqyvlPrAV8sX0JNN6rqOfcdcFkvDbqM4a_ShsYcGrwckPWL8mHSnUjBlowKpLE1U60OZ8UgmFSYy34WoyjjTiJe6chXsyCS8hBs4ZoGLNAH_y6cB-soFHR1P_fWvovU_ZFWai/s320/iStock_000004302665XSmall.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Online Dating Tips - For Men: Women's top 5 online dating profile turn ons!</div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div>I recently had the opportunity to talk to a large group of women who were all online dating. When the chance came up, I took a little survey and asked them what really turned them on when they were reading a guy’s profile. Five things stood out above all the rest.<br /><br /><strong>1. Spelling and punctuation</strong> – This won by a landslide. Good spelling and punctuation are a sign of intelligence and education, two prized traits for most women. This one is so easy to do too... simply write your profile in MS Word, and let it do all the work for you! You don’t need to know what a dangling participle is, but you’d sure better know the difference between “there”, “they’re”, and “their.”<br /><br /><strong>2. A sense of humor</strong> – Saying “I’m funny” doesn’t count for anything! You need to actually display a sense of humor in your profile. This doesn’t always mean being funny, although if you can make her laugh, you are money! If you can’t make her laugh, then focus on displaying a more lighthearted sense of humor, showing her that you can joke about anything.<br /><br /><strong>3. Effort in the profile</strong> – Doesn’t it kind of surprise you that women are turned on simply by guys who actually write a lot in their profile, demonstrating that they are willing to put effort into what they do? If you think about it, it actually makes sense... if you don’t put effort into the profile, you probably won’t put effort into much else in life either.<br /><br /><strong>4. External interests</strong> – Women appreciate a man who cares about life outside himself, and takes interest or action in social, political, or environmental concerns. Caring about the local sports team doesn’t count, you need to display that you care for something above and beyond.<br /><br /><strong>5. Masculine traits</strong> – Women love a manly man. Any way you can describe it in your profile, you’ll become more valuable to her. Remember, we are talking manly here, repairing a car counts, repairing your Playstation doesn’t. Climbing a mountain counts, playing Ultimate (sadly) doesn’t. Remember, illustrate each with an image filled description of a specific event!<br /><br />Here are a few other traits that made the list:<br />- Upbeat, positive attitude<br />- Smiling in photos (this is massively important, guys!)<br />- Photos of you doing something fun/displaying a fun life<br />- Confidence without arrogance<br />- Passion or the pursuit of something (dreams, goals, aspirations)<br /><br />Use this like a checklist, go over your profile and see how many of these you actually hit. If it isn’t all of them, it’s time to sit down and do a little more writing!<br /><br />Cheers and happy dating!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander</div><br /><div><br /></div><br /><div></div><br /><div><br /></div><br /><div>PS. Have you read Online Dating Profile Secrets? It's FREE. Go download it at <a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a></div><br /><div><br /></div><br /><div></div>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-87347832167525858382008-07-17T11:11:00.000-07:002008-11-12T22:34:45.200-08:00Why you aren't attracting the women (or men) you really want...<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg069SMDcJ70Qr9Td4-Qgbyg9z69ryOGKioledGkqSG_6DkYeJb4uuD5MdecDPBvkz01TjcaMPgyJXzQ3TBmTgif5b4lojHKmZMxNbjQuD_m2r1yNNjfHIkIgavFNkV8-Gl5_Dil1oVKAlY/s1600-h/iStock_000002277359XSmall.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5224048196354179890" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" height="195" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg069SMDcJ70Qr9Td4-Qgbyg9z69ryOGKioledGkqSG_6DkYeJb4uuD5MdecDPBvkz01TjcaMPgyJXzQ3TBmTgif5b4lojHKmZMxNbjQuD_m2r1yNNjfHIkIgavFNkV8-Gl5_Dil1oVKAlY/s320/iStock_000002277359XSmall.jpg" width="262" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>> > > READER QUESTION</strong><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><p></p><p></p><p></p><br /><br /><blockquote>“Hi Dylan,<br />Your book is FANTASTIC! I’ve been a pretty shy guy for most of my life, and I’m a little ashamed to admit that this is the first time I’ve ever really had an option with women. I’m 38, been divorced for 3 years, and just don’t like going out to bars. I was 100% dateless for a solid year before I tried online dating. I was lucky enough to find your book within the first month I started, otherwise I probably would have given up pretty quickly, so thank you!<br /><br />I’m going on a steady 1 date per week, just because I don’t have time for more... I do get emails from about 4 or 5 new women a day, I just don’t have time to follow up on all of them. So, here’s my question... Since I’m short on time, how do I narrow down the specific qualities I want in a woman? I’ve made a list in my profile, but it hasn’t<br />changed anything.<br />Your advice is appreciated!”<br />-Harris C.<br />New Jersey<br /></blockquote><br /><strong>> > > MY RESPONSE</strong><br /><br />Harris! First, congratulations on success! Going from -0- women to 52 dates a year is excellent! Good work man!<br /><br />Ok, forget what you’ve heard about writing lists from <em>“The Secret”</em> and other self-help stuff about attracting people... lists don’t work.<br /><br /><em>If anything, lists are going to kill the responses you are getting.<br /></em><br />First, it’s going to turn off the people who don’t fit 100% of the categories on your list.<br />Second, it can make you look self-centered.<br />Third, no one ever... EVVVVER... reads a list and says <em>“Hey, I’m exactly what he’s looking for, I’d better email him right away!”</em> They are either interested in your profile or they aren’t, you list isn’t going to sway them one way or another.<br /><br />Lists don’t magically attract your dream person.<br />So how DO you attract the person you want?<br /><br />First, you need to forget about specific numbers.<br />28-32 years old?<br />120-130lbs?<br />5’7”-5’9”?<br />36-24-36?<br /><br />NO!<br />BAD!<br /><br />Numbers are limiters, not attractors...<br />You must start thinking about your dream girl in terms of PERSONALITY and LIFESTYLE. This is easier to attract through an online dating profile, and arguably will find you a much better match.<br /><br /><strong>1- PERSONALITY<br /></strong>Think of the ideal girl for you in terms of what type of personality you are attracted to. What traits do you seek the most? Sweet and shy? Fun and wild? Serious and dependable? Figure out what you want the most... and instead of saying that’s what you are looking for... TALK ABOUT THAT TRAIT IN YOURSELF.<br /><br />Wait, how does that work?<br />Simple. People are attracted to that which they see in themselves.<br /><br />You want to attract the wild, crazy, adventurous type? You’d better be talking about the wild, crazy, adventurous times you have...<br /><br />You want a sporty, athletic, fit woman? You’re profile better have some good descriptions of all the sports you play and the time you put in at the gym...<br /><br />You want a girl who is a challenge? Then challenge her in your profile.<br /><br /><strong>2- LIFESTYLE<br /></strong>Lifestyle follows the same rule, like attracts like. She is looking for a specific lifestyle, and in order to attract her, you need to present your lifestyle in the proper light.<br /><br />Note: sorry you can’t lie about this one, as soon as she meets you in real life, it’s over... so no Ferraris & private jets to Monaco, ok? On the other hand, you can certainly play up the most attractive parts of your lifestyle and present them in the best light.<br /><br />So...<br />You want someone who loves to travel and see the world? Talk about the last three trips you took.<br /><br />You want someone who is into comic books or sci-fi? Talk about the last convention you went to.<br /><br />You want someone who skis or snowboards? Talk about you favorite mountain.<br /><br />This process of writing about your own traits and experience to match those that you want to find in a woman, is called MIRRORING. It is the basics attracting a specific type of woman though online dating. This is of course a very quick introduction to it, you can find a much more detailed explanation in Online Casanova: For Men, including how to attract a specific look/shape of woman, women in certain careers, etc...<br /><br />You know the website by now: <a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a><br /><br />Happy dating!<br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br />PS. Quickly about the “look” thing, while you can narrow it down, you’ll exclude so many other women who you might be attracted to. I suggest letting all women of any “look” contact you, and then sort through the ones you find most attractive. It’s simpler that way and leaves you with better options to choose from.Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-43216363240683320852008-07-04T14:00:00.000-07:002008-11-12T22:34:45.444-08:00How do you date younger women online?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg61iw4KvsMaX8TlTwP2f09UvbG0Gpohcx_Cyah3SYCEUH5BUHCsLtgvhXf2cFGHHKt-Q1_CXyMtggyD8jzGsZZGidJPm6yCXTd1hamLtnQWprB58wOvYpcJu5h-QqOnygyMs2WlV9MeCZQ/s1600-h/mardigras.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5219267902921043298" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg61iw4KvsMaX8TlTwP2f09UvbG0Gpohcx_Cyah3SYCEUH5BUHCsLtgvhXf2cFGHHKt-Q1_CXyMtggyD8jzGsZZGidJPm6yCXTd1hamLtnQWprB58wOvYpcJu5h-QqOnygyMs2WlV9MeCZQ/s320/mardigras.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Dating younger women online is possible, but not always easy. Here's how:<br /><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><strong>> > > Question of the week:</strong><br /><em>“I am curious. I have been doing online dating for over a year now. Bought numerous programs, **** *’s and Dylan’s (Online Casanova). Both have very good points but prefer Dylan’s. I am 50, divorced, decent looking with a good sense of humor. I'm sure my profile could be better. Dylan, you asked if you could use it for a newsletter, (the one about "stop staring and read my profile".) It’s funny but maybe not quite good enough yet.<br />Here’s my problem. I have found it very difficult to get girls under 40 interested and even the ones closer to my age have really not been too attractive. I have been on Yahoo, match, and p.o.f.(</em><a href="http://www.plentyoffish.com/"><em>www.plentyoffish.com</em></a><em>) I have also been trying to learn in the past year not to be an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) so that when I do get a meet up I will keep up the attraction.” </em><br />-JGP, Oregon<br /><br /><br /><strong>> > > My response</strong><br /><br />Hey JGP!<br />Thanks for the props on the book. I’m still planning on doing a review of your profile in the newsletter, I’ve just been focusing on launching a new version of the website, so I’ve let the newsletters slack a bit. Another two weeks and they will be back up to speed.<br /><br />So.... the younger women question...<br /><br />By now you know the problem (as does every guy reading this) of trying to date much younger women online. They simply filter out older guys based on their perception of how much above their age they THINK they want to date. In real life, this is much easier to get past, as you can win a girl over with your charms before she even thinks about the age gap.<br /><br />Online, it isn’t nearly as easy.<br /><br />Here are the three options if you want to date younger women...<br /><br /><strong>Option 1 – Lie<br /></strong><em>Don’t do this.</em> It’s an option, sure, but don’t. You’ll almost never get past the first date once she realizes that you lied about your age.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Option 2 – Mirroring<br /></strong>If you’ve read Online Casanova, you know what Mirroring is. It’s the concept that people are attracted to that which they see in themselves. Free spirits are attracted to free spirits, corporate types are attracted to corporate types, artists are attracted to artists... etc....<br /><br />So, all you have to do is to figure out what that younger woman sees herself as, and mirror it in your emails. Reflect her true identity. She will be yours.<br /><br />Easy? Hell no. This is probably the most difficult option to get younger women. It also breaks the rule of congruency, which is that you must always be yourself, otherwise your first date is going to fail when she realizes that you aren’t who you suggested you were.<br /><br />Here’s one of my posts on congruency:<br /><a href="http://onlinecasanova.blogspot.com/2007/09/most-common-reason-you-flunk-first-date.html">http://onlinecasanova.blogspot.com/2007/09/most-common-reason-you-flunk-first-date.html</a><br /><br />For more on Mirroring, here’s a post on my blog that will help:<br /><a href="http://onlinecasanova.blogspot.com/2008/02/attack-of-stuck-up-princesses.html">http://onlinecasanova.blogspot.com/2008/02/attack-of-stuck-up-princesses.html</a><br /><br /><br /><strong>Option 3 – Offer her something unique<br /></strong>Here’s the truth... younger women date older men in real life... younger women often PREFER dating older men in real life.<br /><br />Why? Because older men can offer them something that men their age can’t.<br />Here’s a short list of what you might have to offer a younger women:<br />* Class<br />* Culture<br />* Emotional honesty<br />* Expanding her world<br />* Understanding her<br /><br />Women crave these traits in men, and almost NEVER get enough of them in men their own age. Even if they do, they can often get much more of it in an older man.<br /><br />The first two traits, Class and Culture, are straightforward. Women are always attracted to these two. Why? Maybe it’s because they were brought up on Disney fairytales where the princess finds her handsome prince and lives happily ever after. A noble prince is always the mark of class and culture. (That’s just my crazy “drank too much coffee today” theory...)<br /><br />Displaying this in your profile is a matter of personal reflection. If you’ve been reading my newsletter for a while, you know you can’t just SAY “I’m classy and cultured,” you have to SHOW HER that you are classy and cultured. Put up a photo of you in a tuxedo, write about that art gallery you went to in Prague, or talk about how you volunteer for the local musical center charity. I find the photo of the tux works the best, in all honesty.<br /><br />The last three points, emotional honesty, expanding her world, and understanding her, are all tied up in her emotional state. Emotion is the drug of choice for women. Remember, to draw women in, you need to mirror these traits out to her. So...<br /><br />1) Speak honestly about your emotions (but do it in a manly way, don’t be a wuss)<br /><br />2) Talk about how you’ve expanded your own world (in terms of class/culture/travel/lifestyle, etc...)<br /><br />3) Read the subtext of her profile and speak directly to that. This is covered extensively in Online Casanova, and is one of the best online dating skills you can learn. The gist is that you read what she is really saying in her profile, and then mirror that back to her. She’ll be blown away by how you understand her for who she really is (no one ever does this online).<br /><br />The last bit of advice in Option 3... is that you can’t pursue her. Women are super wary of older guys chasing them. Never make her think that you are after her, need her, or are trying to validate yourself by dating younger women. You’ve got to display this massive value to her, then let her come towards you. Think George Clooney or even Sean Connery on this one.<br /><br />Give that a try, and remember this:<br />NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR AGE OR WHO YOU ARE!<br />If you make an issue out of it, it will definitely become a bigger issue for her. If she challenges you on it, blow it off.<br /><br />If she pulls out “you’re too old for me” card, try the following:<br /><br /><em>“Yes... it would be a terrible scandal... everyone would talk. ;) ”<br /></em><br />What woman doesn’t love a good scandal? That’ll catch her off guard. Then just keep going with your reply and never bring it up again.<br /><br /><br />Happy dating!<br />Dylan Alexander<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a><br /><br /><strong>PS.</strong> I should point out that if you are dating women more than 5 years younger than you, give yourself a pat on the back... 5 years difference is the age cap for most women online.<br /><br /><strong>PPS.</strong> Free plug for my book! Get $10 off with this code: xk150s<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/salespage_men.php">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/salespage_men.php</a>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-53843736366892771672008-06-26T08:02:00.000-07:002008-11-12T22:34:45.588-08:00Online Dating Tips For Women Now Available<div>Online dating tips for men have been my niche for the last year... but after spending about 5 months researching and testing, I'm proud to launch ONLINE CASANOVA - FOR WOMEN!</div><br /><div></div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5216206378457953570" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiH5zwL4LK-824LM_rBos1jAuOCCaaNQ9TNqnZX7QYFhqMJfpZ_d_DsbkorFAY51OxlaozjG2MgmIz18Xslvjsxc-ThfLpkFo22-tBoLLN5_9jL31DMY-IuCeu1Fjh6fMuO8lmntjh1eOlP/s320/bookcover_womenD_3D.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div>You can find more about Online Casanova - For Women here:</div><div><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">www.onlinecasanova.com</a></div><div> </div><div>Tell all your girl friends!</div><div> </div><div>Cheers!</div><div> </div><div>Dylan Alexander</div><div> </div>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-60224340265079723602008-06-18T11:50:00.001-07:002008-11-12T22:34:45.764-08:00Online Dating Profile Help - Life Timeline Images<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjLquw8cYoCLw7ROGnFAvzmhpWZv9WpWTeVsvjST5f39qhBY1nhh7IQqqSqxdE6PJJqdxAg9YJH8ugAkhZwVdSrBDCIZcD7IjNcL-FQ3jn2hclROMyOwxTaa8JfVp2YVFliXFgNElg_CzLa/s1600-h/bwboots.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5213296199864576354" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjLquw8cYoCLw7ROGnFAvzmhpWZv9WpWTeVsvjST5f39qhBY1nhh7IQqqSqxdE6PJJqdxAg9YJH8ugAkhZwVdSrBDCIZcD7IjNcL-FQ3jn2hclROMyOwxTaa8JfVp2YVFliXFgNElg_CzLa/s320/bwboots.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Online dating profile help - Life Timeline Images<br /><br /><div><br /><br />I have a new technique to offer you. This is not in the Online Casanova book (yet). It is something I’ve been testing over the last month on my own, with some solid results.<br /><br /></div><div></div><div></div><div>I’m calling the technique “Life Timeline Images”.<br /><br />Here’s the theory:<br />Part of the difficulty in making a connection over the internet is getting the other person to perceive you as a live human being, not just as a new email in their inbox. When you are on a date in real life, this is easy, as they have a real live touchable version of you. When all they have are words, it is a little more difficult to do.<br /><br />To compensate for this in your profile (if you follow the Online Casanova system) you create images of your life while sharing experiences. Usually this happens to be about the current state of your life, and stuff you’ve done recently.<br /><br />I’ve been testing ways of taking this to a new level, and found that I get a much quicker and deeper connection with people reading my profile when I present them with an image of how my life has evolved through time.<br /><br />Now, I do not mean you should write a calendar detailing your life! Don’t write “when I was six, I did... when I was ten, I did...” While that can work, it isn’t quite what I mean. I actually did try this several times with some results, but the method I’m going to show you will do much better.<br /><br />When you write your profile, you choose (I hope) things to talk about based on the value they add to your reader’s perception of you. So you talk about what cool sports you play, your strong bonds with friends and family, or what wild adventures you have... which is good. But as I said, most people only refer to things from the last couple years of their lives.<br /><br />I suggest you go deep. Bring something up from your childhood. Toss in an anecdote from your teenage years. Add in a great adventure from your 20’s. Build your reader a picture of you throughout your life. Add at least one experience from every decade of your life. Build the rest of your value from examples from your current life (the last year).<br /><br />But don’t stop there! Look to your future as well. Talk briefly about where you want to be, what your goals are and what else you hope to achieve. Adding the future glimpse of your life gives the reader some perspective as to what they might expect to be a part of in the year(s) to come.<br /><br />But don’t make your goals ridiculous, materialistic, or vague.<br />Bad example: "<em>I want to be CEO of my own company and make a million a year.</em> "<br />No one really believes this anyway. </div><div><br />Instead, make your future goals specific, detailed, and achievable.<br />Good example: "<em>Next year I want to live in Cannes for two months while I finish writing my travel book. "<br /></em>Ah, that’s something a little more concrete that people can visualize!<br /><br />One additional note for the women... don’t talk about wanting to have kids. This usually hurts your profile response as men tend to interpret it as <em>“I want babies NOW!”</em><br /><br />So... create a life timeline in your profile and build up your reader’s perception of your past, present and future. This will make a huge difference in how they connect with you, and will make your profile stand out immensely above all others.<br /><br />One more thought on this before I wrap it up... This technique also works very well in reverse! When writing to someone, ask them about their past, present, and future. You’ll get a much different picture about the person you are talking to than if you just ask them about what they did that day, or what they think about the local sports team of choice. Plus, having smart and interesting questions for them makes you look smart and interesting too!<br /><br />This also works in real life when you are on a date, talking to your friends, or meeting someone for the first time!<br /><br />Have fun out there.<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a><br /><br />PS. I’d love to see examples of how you work a life timeline into your profile, or hear about how it has worked to improve your online dating. Feel free to write me back at <a href="mailto:onlinecasanova@gmail.com">onlinecasanova@gmail.com</a> </div><div> </div></div>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-24423291987329744272008-06-11T08:55:00.000-07:002008-06-11T09:02:21.181-07:00What do you do for work?"What do you do for work?"<br /><br />You already know it, but this is one of the most important questions (for her) she's going to ask you, and can radically swing her impression of you one way or the other.<br /><br />Why is it so important to women anyway? Can’t they just love us for our mad bedroom skills and sweet comic book collections? Does she really want a sugar daddy to buy her stuff? Or does she want to know that we can support her and her six kids in luxury?<br /><br />Fortunately, most of the time, the answer is “no” to all counts (again... most of the time). What she really wants to know when she asks us about our jobs, is whether or not we’ve got direction and purpose in our lives, and are not just floating along with a revolving door of McJobs. Direction and purpose are very attractive!<br /><br />Wait, what if you are the CEO of Ferrari? No problem, you can tell her everything about how much money you make, the glamour and luxury that you will dote on her, and so on. Perfect? Hah... No.<br /><br />There is a flip side... Most women don't want someone who thinks he can impress her with his job. That's ugly to women as well. They hate men who brag about their jobs and wealth.<br /><br />Now, what really turns her on in the job department...<br />...is that you are passionate, purposeful and driven in the career of your choice...<br />...AND THAT YOU LOVE IT.<br /><br />Loving what you do is one of the most important things you can tell her about your work.<br /><br />I've written variations of the following on many occasions:<br /><br /><br /><blockquote><em>"Well, I should probably tell you what I do for work. Wait, you probably get a non-stop stream of guys trying to impress you like that. OK, I'm not going to fall into that category, so let me say this about my job. I love it, and look forward to it every day. And there are a whole lot of things you'll love about it too."</em> </blockquote><br />Or:<br /><br /><blockquote><em>"And what do I do for work? Ah a great question. I'm absolutely in love with my job, honestly, it's been my dream job since I was about 14 or 15, and every day I check myself to make sure it's real. If I'm still doing this when I die (assuming it's a long time from now), I'll be pretty happy." </em></blockquote><br />Of course, maybe you do have a crappy job, there are a whole lot of ways to spin it into something positive. In the Online Casanova book, I've got a huge section devoted to the many ways to spin things into a positive light.<br />Check it out at: <a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a> if you haven’t yet.<br /><br />So what if you have a job that you hate?<br />Well, I’ve got three other options for you:<br /><br />1) Talk about the strongest positive aspects of your job. This would be things such as the importance of your work, the respect you get from your peers, the great team you manage, and so on...<br /><br />2) If that isn’t the case and you can’t find any strong positive traits to talk about, then instead talk about other work that you do love, but isn’t your day job. Maybe you are a freelance photographer or web designer on the side... Maybe you coach a local sports team... Maybe you volunteer as a bikini contest judge... Hey, a passion is a passion!<br /><br />3) Last case scenario... do something about your dead end job! Seriously! Get the hell out of whatever soul killing career you are doing, and take something in a field you love, even if it is less money. Look, life is short, pursue your dreams, take chances... you’ve got nothing to lose and can always go back to your old job if it doesn’t work out.<br /><br />Ok, ok, so you didn’t sign up for my work advice, back to online dating!<br /><br />The moral of this newsletter is: speak passionately about everything you do, whether it is your job, sports, hobbies, etc... Women are much more attracted to a man who is full of passion for his life than a man who makes a lot of money. Well, except for gold diggers, but who wants them?<br /><br /><br />Happy dating!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br />PS. Quick plug for my book! Check it out at:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-49080276027017699912008-05-29T06:39:00.000-07:002008-06-04T15:13:05.370-07:00Great online dating profiles are like great road tripsGreat online dating profiles are like great road trips.<br /><br />Now, a great road trip can be a lot of things to a different people, so let me explain what I’m talking about, and how exactly, your profile should be like one.<br /><br /><blockquote><p>1) No matter what anyone says, you do need some direction. Your destination can be fluid, but you always have to have somewhere in mind to keep pointing your car towards. Your profile is the same way. It needs to point to something. You are taking your readers on a journey through an image of your life, not just floating around a few vague points. </p><p><br />2) Every pit stop is an opportunity for some fun. If you are on a 2 or 3 day drive, and don’t take the opportunity to have some fun along the way, you won’t remember a damn thing about the trip. If on the other hand, you slow down and see “Utah’s biggest chicken” or the license place museum... those are going to be fun events that stay in your mind long after the trip is over. Your profile has be spruced up with the same fun events. It can’t just be your resume, it has to have some “local character”. </p><p><br />3) Every major stop... err... every paragraph, is a new place that has to offer the reader something new. If every city along the way was the same, it would be one boring trip. Each paragraph should be new and distinct, so the reader knows that if they keep going, they’ll keep getting to learn and see more.<br /></p><p><br />4) Scenery is important. Interesting and diverse scenery is good. 1200 miles of plains is hell! In your profile, keep your scenery, and by scenery I mean descriptive stories and images, varied and interesting. You don’t have to go heavy handed, you just have to spice up each paragraph a little to keep the reader’s mind engaged.<br /></p></blockquote><br />Hope that helps you define your profile a little bit.<br />Now... my bags are packed, waiting by the door, and I’ve got a 1200 mile drive ahead of me (which is why this newsletter is so short) for some sun and surfing. Yes, I could have flown, but there’s something good seeing it all from the ground. What would you like me to bring you back? A little snowglobe with a pelican in it or a keychain, with a scorpion incased in resin in the handle?<br /><br />Have a great weekend!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br />PS. $4 a gallon? Argh!<br /><br />PPS. <a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-20612849019658554362008-05-22T10:48:00.000-07:002008-05-22T10:55:06.770-07:00Online Dating Tips - The Opening Paragraph!Online dating profile tips are great and profile writing help for internet dating is easy to give...<br /><br />But if someone doesn’t read your whole profile, what’s the point? Today, we’re going to focus right down on the opening paragraph, and how to build it so the reader gets sucked into your profile.<br /><br />We start with a question:<br /><br /><strong>***QUESTION***<br /></strong><em>Hey Mr. Online Casanova<br />I’ve been following your newsletter and advice for a while now and finally bought the Online Casanova book last week. Totally awesome. Each chapter was like a giant “aha!” moment! The strategies you gave me let me look at online dating in a whole new light, and I’ve re-written my profile from scratch.<br /><br />One question for you though, in Online Casanova you talk a lot about representing your masculine value, and creating images. I think I’ve nailed the masculine value, but not sure really how to wok in images. Can you take a look at my profile and give me some feedback? Just want to make sure I’m on the same track.<br /><br />Thanks!</em> "<br />Berle, Vancouver, Canada<br /><br /><blockquote>“It’s a beautiful day, skies are blue, and birds are chirping. I hope you find yourself in an equally good mood. So who am I? I come from a long line of white water rafters. My family has a tour company up in ******. While I work as a writer in the city most of the year, I take the summers off to go work as a guide on their boats. Yes I get some crazy pleasure out of pushing the boat past its limits, and watching tourists hang on for dear life!” </blockquote><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:78%;">***Note: for space, I’ve just included the first paragraph*** -Dylan</span> </span><br /><br /><strong>***MY REPLY***</strong><br /><br />Berle!<br />For starters, thanks for buying the book, and thanks for writing. It’s always good to get feedback. Sure, I’d love to take a look at your profile, but for the sake of length in the newsletter, I’m only going to tackle the first paragraph here.<br /><br />I’m glad to see you were paying attention, you’ve certainly got a way better opener than most people write. You write “in character”, presenting some personality, and speaking to the reader directly. You also display a very interesting slice of your life, one that most outdoorsy types will jump at (hell, I think it’s pretty cool too!) You also display a family connection, which is very important, and some very masculine traits too (guiding, keeping people safe, etc...)<br /><br />So what is missing from this opening paragraph? As you suspected... images. Images are critically important in your profile because they give the reader a visual representation of what you are talking about.<br /><br /><strong>IMAGES GET REMEMBERED!<br /></strong><br />Images also make a connection to the subconscious that triggers emotional reactions, creating... gasp... feelings!<br /><br />For anyone who hasn’t read Online Casanova, there is an entire chapter just for creating feelings through images. Check it out at:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/secrets.php">www.onlinecasanova.com/secrets.php</a><br /><br /><br />Back to Berle’s profile!<br />Besides images, there are a few other changes I’d make. First, I’d trim the fat just a little, as your profile doesn’t really take the reader anywhere until about the fourth sentence. Remember, reading your profile should be like a great road trip, every stop should bring new and exciting things. Never stand still fluffing it along.<br /><br />And finally, I’d dose it with a little humor. Humor is critical in the first paragraph. If you can make someone laugh at the start, they will read everything you write, wanting more. They will also be more receptive to your words, as you’ve altered their emotional state for the better.<br /><br />So let me take a little shot at re-writing the opening paragraph.<br /><br /><strong>Headline:</strong> “Skies are Blue, Birds are Chirping, and the Water is White and Roaring!”<br /><br /><strong>Profile:<br /></strong><br /><blockquote>“Wait, let me explain the white water!<br />My parents have a white water rafting company up in ******, and rafting has been in our family for generations. While I thrive in the heart of downtown as a writer during the dark parts of the year, I take the summers off to head up into the mountains to work as a guide on the family boats. Every weekend from June to August, you’ll find me between the oars of a giant yellow raft, a dozen city slickers hanging on for dear life, like ants on a stick, as I slam us all through white waves high over our heads. Do I get some twisted thrills out of scaring them? Absolutely! But they keep coming back... and I haven’t lost a single one... this week!” </blockquote><br />So what did I do differently?<br />- First, I started with a headline that reflects the topic of the first paragraph. You want to keep everything flowing, and flowing from the headline into the profile will certainly help readers keep paying attention.<br /><br />- The first line “Wait, let me explain...” is to get their curiosity. If you tells the readers “pay attention, because something cool is coming!” ...they will.<br /><br />- I cut away everything and just jumped into the opening topic of rafting, just to keep it flowing quickly.<br /><br />- I’ve kept everything about the family and guiding but tossed a few extra descriptive words in there, like “thrive in the heart of downtown” to give a value adding twist, “generations” for adding depth to the family and “dark parts of the year” for adding mood and contrast.<br /><br />- I added a big descriptive sentence about rafting, being between the oars on a yellow raft, ants on a stick, white waves overhead, etc.. These visuals are short but very strong, and really help the reader picture and remember you.<br /><br />-Finally, I added a dose of humor in the last line. “haven’t lost anyone... this week!” While it isn’t laugh out loud funny, it’s good for a smile and lets the reader know you have a sense of humor.<br /><br />And that’s how you write a solid opening paragraph that draws readers in... and keeps them there! Back that up with 4 more paragraphs that display value, create connections, build comfort, and you’re pretty much guaranteed a full inbox of emails every day.<br /><br />If you’ve gotten some value out of this, take a minute to go check out my website:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a><br />It has resources and articles on online dating that are leaps and bounds above the normal cheap advice you get for free on MSN and other “advice sites” that just rehash the same old boring rules. You can also preview chapters from my ebook there as well!<br /><br />That’s it for today.<br /><br />Cheers!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br />PS. Don’t forget to take my Online Dating Aptitude Test here:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/quiz.php">www.onlinecasanova.com/quiz.php</a>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-77559239540330809102008-05-22T08:09:00.000-07:002008-11-12T22:34:46.078-08:00Funny Online Dating Profiles<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgrV1wSj2hWrPcxRXg2vOlFRGlmqgOoP7hYSLLLVixFUcjiipAX2960uBTOvvgZxFRnGi9yAXDwvDWEMLFP916rciOrbVbKhZvz9aNOS9bRh-DJ0Tph4SRGlk3-gQ97W2ibhtURf9aSbI3w/s1600-h/caveman.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5203222001068823202" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgrV1wSj2hWrPcxRXg2vOlFRGlmqgOoP7hYSLLLVixFUcjiipAX2960uBTOvvgZxFRnGi9yAXDwvDWEMLFP916rciOrbVbKhZvz9aNOS9bRh-DJ0Tph4SRGlk3-gQ97W2ibhtURf9aSbI3w/s200/caveman.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Funny online dating profiles<br /><br />Every once in a while, I read something that makes me laugh out loud. Here's one of the funniest profiles I've read in a while. Now, while it may not be the best profile, I've got to respect his attempt at humor.<br /><br />Here it is:<br /></div><br /><div><br /></div><br /><blockquote>I like to go camping. Do you like to go camping. Camping can be fun<br />I like to set up the tent while the female gets the food ready<br />Then I set up the camping mats and sip the sleeping bags together as the<br />female prepares the food<br />Then I make fire while female is amazed at fire making capability<br />The I cook food on fire that woman has prepared<br />Woman is happy I make tent and cook food<br />We go in tent when dark and do not fall asleep right away<br />Do you like that?<br /></blockquote><br /><div><br /><br />Come to think of it, I sure hope he's joking...<br />Anyway, I do not suggest anyone write a profile like that. Ever.<br /><br />That's all for now. More later.<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a><br /><br /><br />PS. Here is the original:<br /><a href="http://vancouver.en.craigslist.ca/m4w/689812910.html">http://vancouver.en.craigslist.ca/m4w/689812910.html</a></div>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-5548889073043563402008-05-20T10:15:00.000-07:002008-11-12T22:34:46.187-08:00Funny online dating profileThanks to Katullus for finding this one from <a href="http://xkcd.com/">http://xkcd.com/</a><br /><br /><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5202510382714542578" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjcLD-iVID0jsneqsUJxf4VuYZ1Kyom7l1wyo4DskvkP9fmgqWH8geVOY3vL4gkRHvlpaOYDQ8tRtQYW8zZDd8wv5uq7kh0W_9xKkhKwTwuIC4ByYg16hYRau0gQsqvhzRO_LLkl2e4B8f_/s400/dating_service2.bmp" border="0" /><br /><p></p><br /><p></p><br /><p></p>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-29750183792255804672008-05-15T08:45:00.000-07:002008-05-15T08:48:29.386-07:00Online Dating Profile Mistakes - She don't like cheese, man!Online dating tips are always useful, but sometimes you need a dose of epic failure to remind yourself that you are indeed a normal human rather than a linguistic <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Lothario</span>. There are lot of occasions where you will write something you think is brilliant, but it turns out to be a spectacular failure. <br /><br />The online dating mistake we are going to talk about today is the “cheese factor,” where you write something that is so awful, it sends people running from your profile. One great example is in my previous blog post:<br /><a href="http://onlinecasanova.blogspot.com/2008/05/bad-online-dating-profile-reviews.html">http://onlinecasanova.blogspot.com/2008/05/bad-online-dating-profile-reviews.html</a><br />Here I analyze someone’s bad profile and point out his mistakes. One of the worst is this line:<br /><br /> <em> “One tiny gold earring and neck chain adorn my toned body.”<br /></em><br />Yes, I always say you should write images, but failed to mention that they cannot be cheesy. What the reader really learns from that line is “I’m tacky,” which as you might imagine, is bad. Really bad.<br /><br /><br />Did I already know this? Yes. Did I make the mistake anyway? Yes.<br /><br />Here’s where I went wrong. This was actually a paragraph in Online Casanova under “descriptive & sensual writing.” I thought I had put together something sensuous that would get anyone reading it a little excited, with strong sexual images. Go ahead, read it.<br /><br /><em> “I don’t cook much, but when I do, the smell of spices will hit you before you even knock on my door. As soon as I open it, the aroma of beef roast in red wine will set you to salivating. One of my specialties, the beef is so tender that it comes apart as you put it in your mouth. Savory scalloped potatoes and <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">bruschetta</span> with plumb sauce will try and fill you, but you’ll need to save room for creamy strawberry cheesecake. So smooth you can swirl it around your tongue. The berries are crisp and juicy, and the sauce slowly dripping off as it tempts you to have another bite.”</em><br /><br />Yeah, it’s pretty loaded with subtext. Too bad when my proofreaders (all women) got to it, they laughed their asses off. “There’s no way I’d keep reading the rest of a guy’s profile if he had this in it,” was the unanimous response. <br /><br />Yes, it turns out that this is way too cheesy writing for a woman to read in a profile or an opening email. So be careful about what you describe and how you describe it. You <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">aren</span>’t writing a “Dear Playboy, I never thought it would happen to me, but...” type of letter. Keep it classy, keep it clean. Description is good, but tacky is bad.<br /><br />For more on detailed descriptive writing (yes, I left all the good stuff in the book, <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">hah</span>!) check out:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/secrets.php">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/secrets.php</a><br /><br /><br />Now, there IS a time for this type of writing, but it is much later in the seductive email process. That however, is a topic for another day.<br /><br />Happy Dating!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br />PS. Have you taken my online dating aptitude quiz? Check it out here:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/quiz.php">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/quiz.php</a>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-33912049279498576702008-05-12T14:47:00.000-07:002008-05-12T15:19:01.054-07:00Bad Online Dating Profile ReviewsBad Online Dating Profile Reviews...<br />...I keep getting forwarded links to bad online dating profiles by people who think they are funny. Sure, some are godawful, but others offer great learning experiences.<br /><br />Today I'm going to dissect one, which has been sent to me a few times (hi <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Sharlyne</span></span>!)<br /><br />I'm not going to <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">post</span> the whole profile here, it's too big. Instead, I'll just piece by piece it. Here's a link to the original:<br /><a href="http://vancouver.en.craigslist.ca/m4w/673674646.html">http://vancouver.en.craigslist.ca/m4w/673674646.html</a><br /><br />The guy actually put a lot of time and effort into his profile. The problem is, he doesn't see how women see it. If he did, he'd do a whole lot of cutting.<br /><br /><strong>Problem 1:</strong><br /><em>What if you could meet a guy with a secure government job and perfect kids?</em><br /><br />First, this isn't a hook to open your profile with. It shows he doesn't know women or understand what they are looking for... Women don't care about a guy having a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">gov't</span></span> job (unless it is political maybe), and generally aren't looking for a guy with kids unless they have some themselves. Although he pitches it nicely, this doesn't add any value to his profile.<br /><br /><strong>Problem 2:</strong><br /><em>I attended my ex-wife’s cake ceremony at AA and shook her boyfriend’s hand. </em><br /><br />This is a big red flag for women... did he drive her to drink?? No, probably not, but why put this in? First, never talk about an ex in your profile, it only lowers your value (unless it was Madonna), secondly, never talk about addictions... even if they aren't yours. This scares people! Third... why does the reader care about being friends with the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">ex's</span></span> boyfriend? This is just dragging more baggage into a relationship that doesn't exist yet.<br /><br /><strong>Problem 3:</strong><br /><em>I don’t like PG’s so I sleep in my birthday suit instead.</em><br /><br />This is creepy. There's detail... and there's TOO MUCH detail. I showed this to several women, and all of them said that this was the point they'd stop reading.<br /><br /><strong>Problem 4:</strong><br /><em>Four years of the preceding routine at the same address and it’s still all good. </em><br /><br />The problem with this statement, is that the paragraph it references is all boring, mundane, day to day grind. Is selling 4 years of work, home, cook, clean, bed, do it over... a good thing? No, women want excitement, romance and adventure. Not the daily grind they are already living.<br /><br /><strong>Problem 5:</strong><br /><em>One tiny gold earring and neck chain adorn my toned body. </em><br /><br />This reminds me of something I read in "Penthouse Forum." Great in a romance novel? Maybe. Not so good in a profile. Creating images IS important, but you better make sure they aren't cheesy.<br /><br /><strong>Problem 6:</strong><br /><em>My <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">esthetician</span></span> takes care of my hands and feet and other places in between. </em><br /><br /><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">Umm</span></span>... WHAT THE HELL??? Is the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">esthetician</span></span> giving "happy endings"? If this creeps me out, it will definitely send women running. Also... being "metro" and having an <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">esthetician</span> is just too <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">girly</span> these days. A few years ago, maybe. I do my nails with my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">Leatherman</span> Charge or just scrape 'em off against a brick wall while I walk.<br /><br /><strong>Problem 7:</strong><br /><em>I prefer to go to Safeway in January with bare feet and sandals because my feet don’t get cold.</em><br /><br />This just screams "I'm weird." There's such a thing as too honest.<br /><br />And there you go. Seven big red flags in his profile. I could dissect it more, but those are the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7"><span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">deal breakers</span></span> for most women. The guy isn't bad looking, although he could use a "cleaner" photo. I tried emailing him twice to give him some personal feedback, but it bounced. Well, maybe he'll stumble across this blog.<br /><br />Anyway...<br />...don't make these mistakes!<br /><br />Happy dating!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br />PS. Everyone of these mistakes are covered in Online Casanova! Check it out:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-76688035452936785052008-05-08T07:53:00.000-07:002008-05-08T08:24:07.713-07:00Does Double Your Dating Work Online"Does Double Your Dating Work Online?"<br />Best online dating headline I've written in a long while!<br /><br />Sorry for the bait 'n switch, but this topic is about headlines, not Cocky/Funny!<br /><br />I was skimming Plenty Of Fish recently, saw a Google Adword ad for Double Your Dating (an excellent book on dating for men by David DeAngelo) and had some inspiration. I popped on Craigslist, my site of choice for testing out new headlines, since readers don't get to see a thumbnail of your pic, just your headline only, and put up a quick profile.<br /><br />I tried the following variations:<br /><br />"Double Your Dating Scam"<br />"I just read Double Your Dating"<br />"Does Double Your Dating Work On Women"<br />and a bunch of others... with mild results.<br /><br />"Does Double Your Dating Work Online" was the only one that pulled strong results, just because it grabs people's sense of curiosity! Of course, you've got to back it up with a fantastic opening paragraph, as your are essentially pulling a bait & switch on them (oops, like I did with you!) This is where you'd lose most readers, so your content has to be great.<br /><br />Now, I should point out, Double Your Dating is a solid book for men who are getting back into the dating scene. I don't have any business ties to them, so you'll have to go find it on your own. :p<br /><br />And finally... you never know what is going to make an excellent headline! Look for opportunity everywhere.<br /><br />Check out my main site for further details about creating knockout headlines that suck people into reading your online dating profile.<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com</a><br /><br />Happy dating!<br /><br />Dylan AlexanderDylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-42511084931155858422008-05-05T07:18:00.000-07:002008-11-12T22:34:46.376-08:00Craigslist Online Dating Tips & Secrets<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNTxOWiNZZo9RHjxQJqXgfu5w8H5RfGkTbz4rvBgmpj6MF01MJgez0z8nzCGpkgWhrXEwrtY2a91argMtW31tpKb9ySq5ElufLnY1j3BslyGiPzpQbbibKZM9q0NM_JRJ3yseLDFpgbVNa/s1600-h/corona.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5196906019328219554" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNTxOWiNZZo9RHjxQJqXgfu5w8H5RfGkTbz4rvBgmpj6MF01MJgez0z8nzCGpkgWhrXEwrtY2a91argMtW31tpKb9ySq5ElufLnY1j3BslyGiPzpQbbibKZM9q0NM_JRJ3yseLDFpgbVNa/s320/corona.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Craigslist online dating tips & secrets are something I get asked for a lot.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />You know... <a href="http://www.craigslist.org/">http://www.craigslist.org/</a><br /><br />It gets something like 2 million personal posts every month (total, not per city, obviously).<br /><br />I hate Craigslist.<br /><br />No, no... believe me... I really do. The whole site is a trainwreck in progress. If it wasn't for one thing, I would never use Craigslist.org again...<br /><br />You can meet TONS of FANTASTIC people on Craigslist!<br /><br />So as much as I hate it, I love it too. Here are some basic tips on Craigslist personals:<br /><br />* Only use it if there is actually some traffic in your city. It's a legend in some places, and unknown in others. If it isn't getting at least half a dozen posts in the w4m (women seeking men) section every day, move on. (by comparison, CL: New York gets over 100 w4m posts and 500 m4w posts per day).<br /><br />* If you use it, your headline better be a razor sharp fishing hook, not a lame pickup line. Nowhere is more critical to have a good profile headline than Craigslist.<br /><br />* Have a picture or don't bother. People look at the posts that have pictures attached 8x more than the ones that don't. No pic = epic fail.<br /><br />* Read some of the profiles that your competition are putting up. Some of them are so bad they are funny. It'll give you some encouragement to write a brilliant profile.<br /><br />* Read the profiles of the people that don't have photos, not just the ones that do. I've often been pleasantly surprised later, many attractive people don't put pics up because they don't want to be recognized there. Also, they get about 10% of the mail that people with photos get, so you have much less competition!<br /><br />Here's one more big warning for Craigslist:<br />I'm going to suggest you not waste your time replying to the posts of women who have HOT PHOTOS. Why? Because most of the women with attractive photos on CL are porn companies, or spammers. You'll get one or two generic emails from her, then something like: "Oh, I've moved to a new place to chat, check out: blahblahblah...." And then you've wasted a ton of your time writing brilliant emails to the bastard running the porn site.<br /><br />If you do write emails, and certainly there are many women worth emailing there, you need to deliever a knockout first email. Re-read the chapter in Online Casanova about perfect first emails: <a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a><br /><br />Cheers!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br /><script src="http://digg.com/tools/diggthis.js" type="text/javascript"></script><br /><br /><script src="http://del.icio.us/feeds/js/networkbadge/OnlineCasanova?name;icon" type="text/javascript"></script></div>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-53264395693657945002008-04-29T21:18:00.000-07:002008-04-29T21:58:20.502-07:00Online dating profile ideas needed? Try "What Not To Wear"....Online dating profile ideas? Try talking about What Not To Wear. No, not what not to wear... What Not To Wear... the TLC show about repairing people's broken fashion sense.<br /><a href="http://tlc.discovery.com/fansites/whatnottowear/whatnottowear.html">http://tlc.discovery.com/fansites/whatnottowear/whatnottowear.html</a><br /><br />Why? Why on earth am I... a guy... sending you guys to watch What Not To Wear and talk about it in your internet dating profile?<br /><br />It'll get you girls... guaranteed!<br /><br />Am I drunk?<br /><br />Well.......... Hey, do you want my advice or not?!?<br /><br />Here's why What Not To Wear is good for your profile:<br /><br /><br /><blockquote>* It displays to the women reading your profile that you are interested in style. This is a huge display of value to women! Every girl wants a guy with a sense of style.<br /><br />* It shows that you aren't afraid to talk about watching a "girlie" type show!<br /><br />* There's a good chance that she likes it too, giving you some space to create commonalities.</blockquote><br />There are other shows that this works for of course, but I'll leave that up to your personal taste. If you've found any that work well, feel free to email them to me!<br /><br />Cheers!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br />PS. Find more online dating advice at:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com</a><br /><br /><script src="http://digg.com/tools/diggthis.js" type="text/javascript"></script><br /><br /><br /><script src="http://del.icio.us/feeds/js/networkbadge/OnlineCasanova?name;icon" type="text/javascript"></script>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-28869370714740013822008-04-24T17:33:00.000-07:002008-11-12T22:34:46.541-08:00Online dating profile proofreading tips?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgg7JVeYIRmQzbmGFRAAEcpnIecZA__htBZwUnT-YAXW8uS-iqsQh-iUIIfKJc6_DmCpR6XFPZ2E4ZpnzfPuAxnaDPwmlb9W1Awf10X73twvbpPQ4CSM9Q3Nh3e13w6i1a26fD7KSOW2Ws8/s1600-h/Attraction.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194337126374037906" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgg7JVeYIRmQzbmGFRAAEcpnIecZA__htBZwUnT-YAXW8uS-iqsQh-iUIIfKJc6_DmCpR6XFPZ2E4ZpnzfPuAxnaDPwmlb9W1Awf10X73twvbpPQ4CSM9Q3Nh3e13w6i1a26fD7KSOW2Ws8/s320/Attraction.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-seWcH8U8DRamoNjU1dD3D-WPOmLOMx8qHPxDEtMVVTqnwhWu1oLA_KYTwdGJFIJJsAr1KmMQ-8YqgyGiNdjjNxPu2oOj6-UY2vxUTcvs5fQORKxJWiAhcaqowY8Powbv00QH2_61VbAn/s1600-h/image001.jpg"></a><br /><br /><div><br />This may sound like the dumbest headline you’ve ever read, but if you are like most people, you probably don’t really read your own profile. Sure, you proofread it, checking for spelling mistakes (I HOPE!) but you don’t actually read it as if you were a total stranger checking you out for the first time.<br /><br />Sure, that’s hard to do, after all you are somewhat biased in favor of your profile, aren’t you? It is the masterpiece that is going to bring you your dream date, right?<br /><br />Here are some tips to proofreading your profile...<br /><br /><strong>1)<br /></strong>Does your profile show any personality? Read it and see if your personality comes through in your words. It needs to, as your profile has to be an extension of who you are, and a little bit of personality goes a long way in online dating. Otherwise, she will get bored reading it.<br /><br /><strong>2)</strong><br />Is the personality it shows reflective of who you really are? Your profile has to be YOU. It can’t be your James Bond alter ego and it can’t be an isolation of only one aspect of you. It has to be a broad look at you. Of course, it can be the BEST parts of you... but it still has to be accurate. Otherwise she will feel cheated when she meets you.<br /><br /><strong>3)</strong><br />Do you have a lot of strong visuals? Visualization leads to emotion and action. Do you describe yourself and your life visually through stories and images? Or do you do it in boring, bland adjectives like: I’m smart, funny, confident, rich, etc... that are guaranteed to make her move on to the next guy?<br /><br /><strong>4)</strong><br />What do you display of value to your reader? Remember, she’s here looking for what SHE wants, so the only important things in your profile are the ones that she will care about. Of everything you’ve written about yourself, what displays your inherent value as a man? If something doesn’t, it should be replaced.<br /><br /><strong>5)<br /></strong>Do you help the reader contact you at the end? It is a stumbling block for a lot of online daters, so make sure you help them email you by including some motivation. Give them a short list of things you would like to know about them (choose wisely!) or maybe offer them a few tips on things they can ask you more about. Don’t simply write “if you like what you read, email me,” or most of your candidates will move on.<br /><br /><br />Now get writing!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br /><strong>PS.</strong> I’m not going to be condescending by adding "spellchecking" to the list. That would be stupod.<br /><br /><strong>PPS.</strong> Sales pitch time... I’ve got a 127 page book filled with tips and techniques like this. You know the website: <a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a> </div><br /><br /><br /><script src="http://digg.com/tools/diggthis.js" type="text/javascript"></script><br /><br /><br /><script src="http://del.icio.us/feeds/js/networkbadge/OnlineCasanova?name;icon" type="text/javascript"></script></div>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-27264817202367593652008-04-11T08:56:00.000-07:002008-11-12T22:34:46.765-08:00Online Dating Profile Quick Fix<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgcb_oz_hxdWojqNJcESpA0usLJsP8rWAWWfXV8NVNVK19n8jyrXWxs4F9cqNVprd9g_ZP9jp9E8u4X1Tpw-EJrmjnVEPFC0N8aRZPejxsgLsLLCdSXVYlM4F3RwY3L2AXVCeQB4i6kNeJW/s1600-h/playboy.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5188017804638247634" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgcb_oz_hxdWojqNJcESpA0usLJsP8rWAWWfXV8NVNVK19n8jyrXWxs4F9cqNVprd9g_ZP9jp9E8u4X1Tpw-EJrmjnVEPFC0N8aRZPejxsgLsLLCdSXVYlM4F3RwY3L2AXVCeQB4i6kNeJW/s320/playboy.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br />Online dating profile mistakes are something I go on about a lot. People often ask me about quick fixes for their profiles and usually I tell them to suck it up and put the time in to write something good.<br /><br />But you are a loyal reader so I’m giving you the quick fix!<br /><br />In the selection process of dating or anything else, people have a “That’s for me” moment, where it becomes clear in their heads that they want the person they are looking at.<br /><br />What’s the best way of pushing someone into a “That’s for me” moment?<br /><br />VISUALIZATION!<br /><br />Visualization leads to action.<br /><br />Ever go shopping for a new car and had the sales person say, “Couldn’t you just see yourself tearing down the road in this new Corvette?” And then you see it in your head and it looks goooood.<br /><br />I do this in every profile I write. First, everything I describe, I do in the form of a story that the reader can visualize.<br /><br />Instead of saying “I like snowboarding,” I’ll write:<br /><em><blockquote><em>“Every other weekend in the winter, as the sun comes up over the mountains, you’ll find me sitting on the ski lift, 165 K2 Nemesis strapped on, iPod of cruising tunes plugged in, just waiting to hop off and drop into 10cm of fresh powder.”<br /></em></blockquote></em><br />This is an immensely better way of describing yourself. Creating images of your life makes all kinds of unconscious links with the reader and actually proves what you are saying. It sure beats “I like snowboarding.”<br /><br />The second type of visual you want to create, is one that includes your reader. You are specifically painting them into your life to push them into that “That’s for me” moment.<br /><br />Here’s an example:<br /><em><blockquote><em>“My perfect lazy Sunday would probably be you and I going for an early morning walk or rollerblade around the waterfront. We could pick up a couple ice creams and lay around the beach for an hour after, making little sandcastles. After that, head back home to relax in the back yard with our favorite books in a hammock made for two.”</em> </blockquote></em><br /><br />The whole paragraph is designed to get the reader to picture themselves in your life, and to come out of it thinking “Yes, I’d like that!”<br /><br />There, that’s my one big giant profile fix that you can do right now!<br /><br />Happy dating!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br />PS. If you’ve got the Online Casanova book, you’ll find many more examples of this that you can “borrow” for your own profile.<br />You can find it here:<br />www.onlinecasanova.com<br /><br /><script src="http://digg.com/tools/diggthis.js" type="text/javascript"></script> <br /><script type="text/javascript" src="http://del.icio.us/feeds/js/networkbadge/OnlineCasanova?name;icon"></script>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-51430985931860683692008-04-03T07:49:00.000-07:002008-11-12T22:34:46.896-08:00Online dating profile length – how long should it be?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRQiwLZEyTTQT_amlmF1y69edFRB5yQ7l7S4g9hyXJMfwiecr5-rPPZbDyzKmhzZDF2v7nX8WPZm1yMXuPnNJY2S_yr67Akx3HRCe4kZYPFj424lPxj_7_Zsj589X36D8W03TsI7buwjve/s1600-h/mardigras.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5185031942136320674" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRQiwLZEyTTQT_amlmF1y69edFRB5yQ7l7S4g9hyXJMfwiecr5-rPPZbDyzKmhzZDF2v7nX8WPZm1yMXuPnNJY2S_yr67Akx3HRCe4kZYPFj424lPxj_7_Zsj589X36D8W03TsI7buwjve/s320/mardigras.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div></div><br /><div>How long should an online dating profile be?</div><br /><div><em></em></div><br /><div><em>“Hey Dylan, got your book and have used it as a point by point reference to put together a new profile. It’s fantastic, you gave me ideas I never would have come up with on my own and I’ve seen a big change in my results in the last week alone. Probably triple. I’m going to keep testing new stuff and keep improving it. One question though... how long should my profile be? Thanks, and hugely looking forward to the next newsletter!”</em> JPD – Toronto<br /></div><br /><div><br />Hey JPD!<br />Thanks for the kind words, I love hearing that the book has made a difference.<br /><br />To answer your question, how long should your profile be...<br /><br />You’ve heard the KISS philosophy? Keep It Short and Simple?<br /><br />FORGET THAT!<br /><br />Short is BAD!<br /><br />Reality check... We men like things short and simple. We tend to have short attention spans. I’m checking in on the latest news about Grand Theft Auto IV as I write this! Seriously!<br /><br />Women on the other hand.... WANT DETAILS!<br />You’ve listened to women talking on the phone, swapping life stories in absolute detail. They love it, crave it, need it, adore it. So give them material! You are trying to paint them a picture of your life, you can’t do that in 2 paragraphs.<br /><br />Here’s what I do:<br />I choose about 5 or 6 topics from the “Critical Topics That Attracts Women” list. I give each of those topics about 4-6 good sentences, usually in the form of a story to illustrate it. That makes for about 400-500 words.<br /><br />Holy crap, 400+ words? Who the hell do I think I am, your friggen English teacher from Grade 10? Well... let me tell you this... I’ve tested short profiles and I’ve tested long profiles. And I’ve tested really really long profiles (in the 1000+ word range). 400-500 quality words is the magic number I’ve found.<br /><br />Remember, you want to hit on at least 5 topics that she CARES about (ie. not your favorite albums and definitely not your favorite football team!) Each one needs to be illustrated in depth using examples or stories (not just adjectives!) This takes time and a bit of though, but it will be well worth it.<br /><br />Remember how much time and money you put into going out to a bar or club to meet women... Investing an hour or two into writing (and re-writing) a great profile is going to pay much better dividends.<br /><br />Happy Online Dating!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br />PS. Don’t forget to maximize the amount of photos you can put up. It makes a huge difference (as long as they are GOOD photos!) in how deeply a woman will connect with you.<br><br><br /></div><div></div><div></div><div>PPS. For the list of Critical Profile Topics that Attract Women... go check out my website <a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a> </div>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-47705840459018107462008-03-10T14:57:00.000-07:002008-11-12T22:34:46.958-08:00How To Spot Fake Online Dating Photos<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjl0UsbuxdH_7rk5RRT690s0AB2gZz34XnL2unA9mvBW8lONWAYfTxbP9RWHTMjR_gesmI83rc0Byn2Zf4FgjbfXSBaP6xREsxwVy_qLK6qlh8rqvp5BsZgct8GRa7MZtvWvmafcy5ofB4v/s1600-h/bikini33.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5176239405392324482" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjl0UsbuxdH_7rk5RRT690s0AB2gZz34XnL2unA9mvBW8lONWAYfTxbP9RWHTMjR_gesmI83rc0Byn2Zf4FgjbfXSBaP6xREsxwVy_qLK6qlh8rqvp5BsZgct8GRa7MZtvWvmafcy5ofB4v/s320/bikini33.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Online dating horror stories always include one common theme... misleading photos!<br /><br />Regardless whether you are a man or a woman, you’ve probably experienced it to some extent. You show up to meet someone you found online for a drink and your date doesn’t look anything like the picture they sent you. Maybe their charming personality wins you over... or maybe it doesn’t. Regardless, you are disappointed that they are more “not” than “hot”.<br /><br /><br />There are a few common ways people mislead you with photos.<br />1) They use out of date photos from a time that they were younger and more attractive.<br />2) They use photos that conceal the unattractive areas of themselves<br />3) They use photos of totally different people.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Out Of Date Photos<br /></strong>Using out of date photos seems completely ethical for some people, after all, they still feel young and to them, it is who they still are, even though they may have added 40lbs and wrinkles... <br /><br />Extremely out of date photos are a little easier to spot, watch for the following:<br />-Out of date clothes.<br />-Out of date hair cuts or makeup.<br />-“scanned” film print images, as opposed to ones taken with a digital camera.<br /><br />More recent out of date photos (within a few years) are much more difficult to spot. <br /><br />-Look for inconsistencies in personal descriptions, such as someone describing they have short hair, but in the photo it is long.<br /><br />-Look for broad variations between photos, for example weight changes or style changes over photos.<br /><br />You can always ask when the photos were taken to be safe, just do it tactfully.<br />“Interesting photo! Where were you when it was taken? Really? Cool. How long ago was that?”<br /><br /><strong>Concealing Photos<br /></strong>Before you read this section, you should know that I used to be a professional photographer. My main work was sports, but I did my share of portraits as well (like the cover of the Online Casanova book!) I worked with a lot of first time and “average girl” models where I had to do a lot of the work to make them look their best. Thus, I present to you the following ways that people “cheat” their photos to look much sexier. Watch out for:<br /><br />-Photos take from a high angle looking down. These would be ones where the person takes a self portrait by holding the camera over their head pointing down and looking up into it. This makes the head prominent in the photo, making the body look much smaller by comparison. It also stretches out all the extra skin in the neck area, making the face look slimmer.<br /><br />-Any photo where the face is cropped. The front of the face itself doesn’t really reveal how heavy someone is but the cheek/neck shows a lot. A tight crop showing only the eyes/nose/mouth/chin is one of the most obscuring photos out there.<br /><br />-Photos lit from behind to just illuminate the silhouette of the face. This is a great photographer’s trick to bring out just the key features of someone’s looks, while keeping the not so hot parts hidden in the shadows.<br /><br />-Headshots, showing just the head and shoulders aren’t always a warning sign. It only becomes a warning sign if the person says they don’t have any more photos of themselves. Everyone has at least one full or half body shot sitting on their computer. The excuse is the red flag.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Concealing Photos with Photoshop<br /></strong>Ah Photoshop... I love you. You make my hair richer, my skin smoother, my teeth whiter and my eyes sparkle. Look, if women can use makeup to make their lips richer and fuller, their eyes more sultry and seductive, and hide all their skin flaws for pictures... then I’m sure going to do as much of the same in Photoshop! <br /><br />But what I won’t do is use Photoshop to actually change what I look like (I use the old fashioned gym for that, sigh). For people who do use Photoshop to reshape themselves, look out for the following signs:<br /><br />-Sections of the photo which appear smudged or streaked, indicating that certain tools have been used to manipulate that area.<br /><br />-Duplicated parts of the photo, which betray that someone has “cloned” an area and pasted it over another in order to mask something.<br /><br />-A difference in the overall texture of the photo. If a photo is “noisy” or grainy all over, but strangely smooth in one area, it indicates that someone has done some sloppy Photoshop work in that section.<br /><br />Now, there probably aren’t many people actually doing this, I’m just giving you a cautious heads up.<br /><br /><strong>Using Photos Of Other People<br /></strong>This is pathetic enough that you should pity the person who feels they have to do this in order to attract someone. How could you ever trust someone in a future relationship when they wouldn’t even use their own face to meet you online? <br /><br />Detecting these photos is very difficult, after all, someone could just browse Myspace profiles until they see a full set that depicts a full and sexy life and copy them all. The good news is that as online dating becomes more socially acceptable, there are proportionally fewer people stealing photos. However, keep an eye out for the following:<br /><br />-Inconsistencies between written physical descriptions and the photos (eyes, hair, height, weight).<br /><br />-Inconsistencies between locations (if you are dating in a desert area and someone’s photos all have pine trees in the background).<br /><br />If you get the faintest hint that someone may be doing something shady with their photos, here are a few methods of busting them:<br /><br />-Ask for photos that would show something from their written profile. If they have a dog, ask to see a picture of them holding their dog. EVERYONE with a pet has one of those! If they refuse, be suspicious.<br /><br />-Probe for details about when/where their photos were taken, or about other details in the photos. If they ignore the question, that’s a big red flag.<br /><br />-The deal maker/breaker: Ask them to go take a photo with their digital camera holding up a sign that says “Hi...” with your name written on it. Few people have the skills to fake this in Photoshop. <br /><br /><br />Ultimately, if someone really wants to fool you, they probably will. The good news is that, if you follow my rule of going on a date after 3-5 emails, you won’t have wasted too much of your time writing to them if they turn out to look different than their photos. <br /><br />Happy online dating!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br />PS. As usual, a little reminder that my book with actual techniques and tactics for online dating can be found at <a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">www.onlinecasanova.com</a>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-55669730859286382882008-03-05T15:34:00.000-08:002008-11-12T22:34:47.105-08:00How To Act Online And On A Date<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEju_UsFMc1qcviz8F54-KTMMxWwdzrmvoeY6tzhiddxMLHZRLstvs3JL4e0zqGw48o95FkU1nou2YrZPFjkmj9xjxWjfdCCZVBN4eKtHXegdd33BCrPqM0DADUhFRCmpy2xy_Dn3uRlzuVG/s1600-h/girl.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5174406019934648226" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEju_UsFMc1qcviz8F54-KTMMxWwdzrmvoeY6tzhiddxMLHZRLstvs3JL4e0zqGw48o95FkU1nou2YrZPFjkmj9xjxWjfdCCZVBN4eKtHXegdd33BCrPqM0DADUhFRCmpy2xy_Dn3uRlzuVG/s320/girl.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><em></em></div><br /><div><em></em></div><br /><div><em>“Hi Dylan<br />I bought your book and it is unlike any online dating book I’ve read. You actually teach people stuff instead of dishing the same old crap like “comment on something in her profile” and “talk about your likes.” I’ve only started using the tips from the first 4 chapters and it’s made a huge difference in my online dating game.<br />One question... how do I act on a date?”</em> J.H.<br /><br />Hey JH! Glad you are getting some serious use out of the book. I built it to teach people a system to actually attract people while online dating and didn’t just compile a bunch of tips. Keep applying it, your results are just going to keep going up and up!<br /><br />To answer your question (this is actually covered in the 2nd last chapter of the book), you need to act on a date exactly the same way that you “behave” online. If you are a cocky and playful guy online, you’d better be that way in real life. If you are a cool, mellow guy online, you’d better be that guy in real life. Remember, if you aren’t the same guy you presented yourself as, she’s going to be disappointed and feel cheated. And if she feels cheated, in her mind the date is already over.<br /><br />So this comes down to a little lesson in self awareness and honesty. Don’t present yourself online as anything but who you really are. Sure, you want to present the <strong>SEXIEST</strong> parts of who you are... but don’t fake being anything you aren’t.<br /><br />For example: yes, you could write the most dead sexy James Bond meets Han Solo profile any girl’s ever read... but it wouldn’t do any good because as soon as you got that girl on a date, she’d realize you were full of shit. Once her trust was broken, it’d be a huge battle to win it back. Remember how honesty is one of the top traits that women like?<br /><br />You make two impressions on a girl, the first impression with your online profile/first email, and the second impression when you meet on a first date. The second impression has to reinforce everything that she got from the first impression. This is one of the big reasons so many guys never get past the first date with a girl they met online.<br /><br />So there’s your answer. Be who you really are, both online and in real life, just put the sexiest parts forward first.<br /><br />Cheers!<br /><br />Dylan Alexander<br /><br />PS. If you haven’t gotten a copy of Online Casanova, you can find it here:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a></div>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-22832301496762000862008-02-20T16:51:00.000-08:002008-11-12T22:34:47.249-08:00Great Online Dating Headlines<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmAlyr7wmQy7Yd05KEVHbdkg9tHuso1TIf5r7PVx4SbJTrD39A2pwA4hQS8pA6tJXME25-w0lJcTtsCAsOtSfgBjgu8ia5Xy971RQBZfBrUN0XsvHtY8k93ZdedxDDBW2F40Cq0xdXluv8/s1600-h/AV1.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5169232731178186706" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmAlyr7wmQy7Yd05KEVHbdkg9tHuso1TIf5r7PVx4SbJTrD39A2pwA4hQS8pA6tJXME25-w0lJcTtsCAsOtSfgBjgu8ia5Xy971RQBZfBrUN0XsvHtY8k93ZdedxDDBW2F40Cq0xdXluv8/s320/AV1.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div></div><br /><div>Great online dating headlines can go a long way to getting you results!</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Usually I try to give you techniques or tactics that can help you improve your online dating skill. This week, I’m just going to feed you a handful of my favorite headlines, ones that have worked well for me in the past. Because I do a lot of dating on Craigslist, where readers ONLY see your headline, not your photo, I’ve spent a lot of time coming up with unique ones. I’m sharing some variations of my favorites from last year with you now. Use them at will. Enjoy!<br /><br /><br /><em><strong>“Help! Trapped on a deserted island, please send the following supplies:”<br /></strong></em>This headline snags readers due to its uniqueness, but be careful not to follow it up with just a list or they will get bored quickly.<br /><br /><em><strong>“I’m trying to decide between these two photos, need your opinion!”<br /></strong></em>Yes, opinion openers sometimes work well as headlines! Just make sure you back it up with some great photos. This also works well in getting women to talk to you even if you have a weak profile. </div><div> </div><div>Oh, if you want 8 ways to make a great online dating photo, here's my full article:</div><div><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/online-dating-photo-tips">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/online-dating-photo-tips</a><br /><br /><strong><em>“I know the difference between THEIR, THERE and THEY’RE!”<br /></em></strong>Quality women are sick of guys who write poorly. Talk to any intelligent girl online dating, they all like to complain about it. This headline will get you smart girls, just proofread the hell out of your profile or you will lose them just as quickly.<br /><br /><strong><em>“RE: RE: RE: Searching For The Perfect Guy in this city!”<br /></em></strong>Ok, this is a little trick that works great on Craigslist... People always read anything that starts with “Re:” because it looks like you are replying to someone else’s post. Replies like this are often flamers ripping on bad posts... and everyone loves some drama! So yes, you are faking being a reply to another post, but believe me, your profile will get read! You had better open with a great line though.<br /><br /><strong><em>“Only MORONS believe in The Secret”</em></strong><br />Ok, this is RISKY! This will get your profile read by a lot of women (since The Secret is pretty high up on the “chick crack” list). By slamming it, a whole lot of women are going to read what you have to say. I ran my whole profile, then at the end wrote “PS. You are probably waiting for me to say something about why I think The Secret is for morons... The movie fails to point out that positive thinking has to be backed up by hard work, but the masses don’t want to hear that part.. Napoleon Hill’s book is much better.” </div><div> </div><div>Here's my actual full article on using The Secret/The Law Of Attraction in online dating:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/the-secret-the-law-of-attraction-and-online-dating">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/the-secret-the-law-of-attraction-and-online-dating</a></div><div><br /><br />There you go! Five new headlines to try that I’m pretty sure you won’t see anywhere out there (although that may change now!) Of course, these headlines will only get someone to look at your profile. From there, you’d better have some solid text and a great photo to finish the job, otherwise you still won’t get any replies. You are only as hot as the weakest link in your profile.<br /></div><div>Now, if you want some laughs and some groans, make sure you read my list of the worst online dating headlines:</div><div><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/Online-dating-headlines">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/Online-dating-headlines</a></div><div><br />That’s it for this week, hope you’ve found these online dating tips helpful!<br /><br />Cheers!<br /><br />Dylan<br /></div><div>PS. You can find my full ebook with all my online dating profile secrets and examples of what has worked for me here: <a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/books">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/books</a></div><div><br />PPS. If you don’t know, Craigslist is <a href="http://www.craigslist.org/">http://www.craigslist.org/</a> The personal sections for most major North American cities get a ton of traffic, sometimes too much. Anyway, I like it.</div>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2305213203328562819.post-52201045146556443762008-02-14T14:44:00.000-08:002008-11-12T22:34:47.414-08:00Online Dating Email Mistakes<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMHwnGlKSEIjli9xCFtMD_HZPSmEaPfzmbMob-FO4EggjvsnAEJ1zmFhbRiLDKvNJRDaGR7L4GuAE7dfJCIKcoa-lYUcH_xROTHKeMt_EHJFC4rGN1tjWpm0B1180_k0q5kG0KWxJ_lQrU/s1600-h/img6497xe0.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5166971667120043970" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMHwnGlKSEIjli9xCFtMD_HZPSmEaPfzmbMob-FO4EggjvsnAEJ1zmFhbRiLDKvNJRDaGR7L4GuAE7dfJCIKcoa-lYUcH_xROTHKeMt_EHJFC4rGN1tjWpm0B1180_k0q5kG0KWxJ_lQrU/s320/img6497xe0.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><br />In Online Dating, email mistakes will kill you. How many emails have you written to women, without responses? Probably lots. But that’s Ok, I have too! However, once you understand the main reasons WHY she doesn’t write you back, you’ll be able to ramp up your email game and start to get a lot more replies! </div><div></div><div>Here are the six most common online dating email mistakes you will make.<br /><br /></div><div></div><div><br /><strong>1. You didn’t get her attention.<br /></strong>She gets a TON of emails. Hot women on busy sites can get easily over a hundred a day. That’s some serious competition! If you don’t get her attention fast, you’ll be forgotten instantly and she’ll move on without replying. And how do you do it? Be interesting, insightful, interested in her and funny as hell!<br /><br />For other tips on how to write an email, go here: </div><div><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/dynamic_emails.php">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/dynamic_emails.php</a> </div><div><br /><br /><strong>2. She thinks you are shallow.<br /></strong>Hot women know that most guys are just contacting them because they are hot. As much as it’s an ego boost for them, knowing you think they are hot doesn’t them any real reason to write you back.<br />-Don’t ask for sexier photos of her.<br />-Don’t kiss her butt and tell her how hot she is over and over.<br />-Don’t ask her how much she weighs... EVER.<br />-Don’t ask for body shots of her (until several emails later)<br /><br />There are tons of guys that do nothing but this. Don’t be one of them.<br /><br /><strong>3. Your photo sucks.<br /></strong>I’m not saying YOU suck, just that YOUR PHOTOS suck. It doesn’t matter how great your email is, if your picture makes you look like a sack of crap, you aren’t getting a response. Before you start worrying about your looks, there are two things you need to know... First, a bad photo will make the hottest guy look ugly. Second, the right photo can make you look great. One great photo will make or break your online dating results.<br />Repeat after me “I will get a professional to take a headshot photo of me.”<br /><br />For rules of how to have a great online dating photo, go here:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/dating_photos.php">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/dating_photos.php</a> </div><div><br /><br /><strong>4. You were crass, rude or sexual.<br /></strong>A lot of things can turn a girl off, but few like being crass, rude or sexual. She’s a woman, not one of your buddies, so don’t try to get her attention by shock value. Yes, it works from time to time, but for the most part she’ll just delete your email.<br /><br />-Don’t use any four letter words... you know the ones I mean.<br />-Don’t ask her what her favorite sex position is.<br />-Don’t ask her about her erotic fantasies.<br />-Don’t ask if she has any nude photos.<br /><br />She gets enough of those emails every day.<br /><br /><br /><strong>5. You throw up her red flags.<br /></strong>She doesn’t want your baggage and insecurities. She definitely doesn’t want to hear you crying about them in your email. So forget even mentioning your ex, your problems, your addictions, your failures or your insecurities... Never email her more than once before she replies, you aren’t going to change her mind by looking needy.<br />-Don’t email her more than once in between her replies.<br />-Don’t talk about your exes.<br />-Don’t talk about the bad dates you have had.<br />-Don’t talk about why you think online dating sucks.<br /><br />Besides, your potential partner will have lots of time to figure out what they don’t like about you on your first date! (That’s a joke people!)<br /><br /><br /><strong>6. She’s just not that into you.</strong><br />No matter what you do, some girls just aren’t going to be that into you. Maybe she only dates short dorky poor guys, maybe you remind her of her brother, you’ll probably never know.<br /><br />If you present yourself in your best light, have a great photo, display your personality and value as a man... and she still doesn’t email you back? It’s her, not you.<br /><br />On the other hand, if your profile isn’t polished to perfection, you don’t have the best photo you could possibly have, and you aren’t writing emails that shine like diamonds against coal... you’ve got some work to do.<br /><br />Where to start? First, sign up for my weekly online dating tip newsletter. </div><br /><div>Then get yourself a copy of Online Casanova here:<br /><a href="http://www.onlinecasanova.com/">http://www.onlinecasanova.com/</a></div><div></div><div></div><div>Cheers!</div><div></div><div>Dylan Alexander</div>Dylan Alexanderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05106926298466841597noreply@blogger.com0