Losers like sports.
There you go, I'm pissing you off again. Yes, if you simply write in your profile "I like sports," then pretty much, yes, you are a loser.
Every guy likes sports of some type. Telling her the obvious does nothing to create any attraction or common grounds between the two of you.
Well, what if you wrote this instead:
"I play volleyball in the summer and snowboard in the winter."
Guess what, you've moved up! You've gone from Loser to Average! Yay, you are average! You can get an average girl and have an average relationship! Happy?
What, you want more?
Fine. Try something like this:
“During the summer you’ll find me covered in sand at my rec beach volleyball league (psst, we need a cheerleader!) We have so much fun it’s worth the occasional mouth full of sand, especially with the crashing waves and cool
breeze making a perfect setting.
And in the winter? Before the snow starts falling in the mountains I’ve already got the first snowboarding trip lined up. Priority one is finding a cozy little ski lodge with a steamy hot tub half buried in snow next to a mountain with deep champagne powder!”
Whoa! That's a little better, isn't it? You've moved from Average up to Rockstar! So what does the last paragraph really have over the others? Well, beyond simply telling her that you like volleyball and snowboarding, it's also telling her that:
- You have a social life in your rec volleyball league
- You appreciate the fun of the sport as much as the competition
- You are a planner type
- You appreciate a romantic setting
But most importantly, with each description, you are creating a image for her, filling her senses with sights/sounds/textures for her to see in her mind. And you are inviting her into your world.
You aren't just a guy who likes sports, you are a guy with a life, and are bringing her into it.
Try writing your own.
Dylan
