"So, uh, what do you do for work?"

Six words that should strike fear into your heart...

"What do you do for work?"

This is one of the most important questions she's going to ask you, and can radically swing her impression of you one way or the other.

Why is it so important? Does she want a sugar daddy? Does she want to know that we can support her six kids?

No and no. What she wants is to know that we've got direction and purpose in our lives, and not just floating through it with a revolving door of McJobs.

But you are the CEO of Ferrari, no problem, you can tell her everything about how much money you make, the glamour and luxury that you will dote on her, and so on. Perfect?

Hah... No.

The slippery slope is that she doesn't want someone who thinks he can impress her with his job, and brags about it. That's just as ugly (OK, less ugly, but still ugly).

Now, what really turns her on...
...is that you are passionate, purposeful, and driven in the career of your choice...
...AND THAT YOU LOVE IT.

Loving what you do is one of the most important things about your work for her.

I've written variations of the following in my profiles on numerous occasions.

"Well, I should probably tell you what I do for work. Wait, you probably get a non-stop stream of guys trying to impress you like that. OK, I'm not going to fall into that category, so let me say this about my job. I love it, and look forward to it every day. And there's a whole lot of things you'll love about it too."

Or:

"And what do I do for work? Ah a great question. I'm absolutely
in love with my job, honestly, it's been my dream job since I was about 14 or
15, and every day I check myself to make sure it's real. If I'm still
doing this when I die (assuming it's a long time from now), I'll be pretty
happy."

Of course, maybe you do have a crappy job, there are a whole lot of ways to spin it into something positive. In the Online Casanova book, I've got a huge section devoted to the many ways to spin your career into something positive that she will respect. It should be available at the end of the month.

And that's your online dating profile writing tip of the week. It can also be used in email as well.

Cheers!

Dylan Alexander

PS. None of this applies to gold diggers, obviously, but who cares about them anyway?