Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Online Dating Profile Help - Life Timeline Images


Online dating profile help - Life Timeline Images



I have a new technique to offer you. This is not in the Online Casanova book (yet). It is something I’ve been testing over the last month on my own, with some solid results.

I’m calling the technique “Life Timeline Images”.

Here’s the theory:
Part of the difficulty in making a connection over the internet is getting the other person to perceive you as a live human being, not just as a new email in their inbox. When you are on a date in real life, this is easy, as they have a real live touchable version of you. When all they have are words, it is a little more difficult to do.

To compensate for this in your profile (if you follow the Online Casanova system) you create images of your life while sharing experiences. Usually this happens to be about the current state of your life, and stuff you’ve done recently.

I’ve been testing ways of taking this to a new level, and found that I get a much quicker and deeper connection with people reading my profile when I present them with an image of how my life has evolved through time.

Now, I do not mean you should write a calendar detailing your life! Don’t write “when I was six, I did... when I was ten, I did...” While that can work, it isn’t quite what I mean. I actually did try this several times with some results, but the method I’m going to show you will do much better.

When you write your profile, you choose (I hope) things to talk about based on the value they add to your reader’s perception of you. So you talk about what cool sports you play, your strong bonds with friends and family, or what wild adventures you have... which is good. But as I said, most people only refer to things from the last couple years of their lives.

I suggest you go deep. Bring something up from your childhood. Toss in an anecdote from your teenage years. Add in a great adventure from your 20’s. Build your reader a picture of you throughout your life. Add at least one experience from every decade of your life. Build the rest of your value from examples from your current life (the last year).

But don’t stop there! Look to your future as well. Talk briefly about where you want to be, what your goals are and what else you hope to achieve. Adding the future glimpse of your life gives the reader some perspective as to what they might expect to be a part of in the year(s) to come.

But don’t make your goals ridiculous, materialistic, or vague.
Bad example: "I want to be CEO of my own company and make a million a year. "
No one really believes this anyway.

Instead, make your future goals specific, detailed, and achievable.
Good example: "Next year I want to live in Cannes for two months while I finish writing my travel book. "
Ah, that’s something a little more concrete that people can visualize!

One additional note for the women... don’t talk about wanting to have kids. This usually hurts your profile response as men tend to interpret it as “I want babies NOW!”

So... create a life timeline in your profile and build up your reader’s perception of your past, present and future. This will make a huge difference in how they connect with you, and will make your profile stand out immensely above all others.

One more thought on this before I wrap it up... This technique also works very well in reverse! When writing to someone, ask them about their past, present, and future. You’ll get a much different picture about the person you are talking to than if you just ask them about what they did that day, or what they think about the local sports team of choice. Plus, having smart and interesting questions for them makes you look smart and interesting too!

This also works in real life when you are on a date, talking to your friends, or meeting someone for the first time!

Have fun out there.

Dylan Alexander
http://www.onlinecasanova.com/

PS. I’d love to see examples of how you work a life timeline into your profile, or hear about how it has worked to improve your online dating. Feel free to write me back at onlinecasanova@gmail.com