So you want to date on craigslist.org personals section? It can be extremely competitive, but also extremely rewarding. Here are some tips that will help you succeed:
1.
Post your own ad instead of replying to others. This is a matter of numbers... if you have your own ad up there, you’ll get a way better result for the time you put it. Having people come to you is better than fighting the competition and replying to someone else’s ad. Also, the vast majority of people dating on Craigslist are browsing ads, not posting them, so by placing your own ad, you’ll tap into the main bulk of Craigslist daters.
2.
Have 4 photos, all of them good, all of them of you. You know that people reading Craigslist personals always skip down the listings to the posts with photos attached, right? If you don’t have a picture, don’t bother playing the game at all. Having said that, your picture must be of YOU... not a sunset, not a rose, not even a super close-up of your eye... these are just ways of cheating the reader, and people know it. If you really want to shine over the other posts, use four photos (the Craigslist max), make all of them of you, and all of them good (see my article on how to have good photos!)
Tips on having a good photo:
http://www.onlinecasanova.com/online-dating-photo-tips
Tips for women on what photo NOT to use:
http://www.onlinecasanova.com/bad-online-dating-profile-photos
3.
Don’t try to be cool and quirky. For some reason, people think posting quizzes, political views, and “10 weird things about me” is a great way to date on Craigslist. Don’t do this. Instead, be yourself and write a post that represents who you are and highlights the most attractive aspects of your life (ie. A dating profile). All the standard Online Casanova rules apply here: show don’t tell, be funny and unique, showcase your most valuable masculine/feminine traits... and so on.
4.
Headlines count! Online dating headlines aren’t as important on sites where your picture shows up in the profile list... but in Craigslist, where it doesn’t, you need to pay more attention to the headline. For starters, read my article on bad online dating headlines here:
http://www.onlinecasanova.com/Online-dating-headlines
Then try to create something unique, funny, or visual. Don’t stop with the first one, write many and test them against each other.
5.
And finally... put some effort in! If you look at a lot of craigslist.org “men seeking women” and “women seeking men” posts, you’ll be horrified by how weak an attempt some people make. You should put in a minimum of 300 words, spaced out to 4 or 5 unique paragraphs... don’t clump it all together. Sometimes the best way to stand out from the crowd is just to show up and do a good job!
Happy dating!
Dylan Alexander
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Monday, October 13, 2008
Friday, August 1, 2008
Online Dating Advice - Women's top 5 online dating profile turn ons
Online Dating Tips - For Men: Women's top 5 online dating profile turn ons!
I recently had the opportunity to talk to a large group of women who were all online dating. When the chance came up, I took a little survey and asked them what really turned them on when they were reading a guy’s profile. Five things stood out above all the rest.
1. Spelling and punctuation – This won by a landslide. Good spelling and punctuation are a sign of intelligence and education, two prized traits for most women. This one is so easy to do too... simply write your profile in MS Word, and let it do all the work for you! You don’t need to know what a dangling participle is, but you’d sure better know the difference between “there”, “they’re”, and “their.”
2. A sense of humor – Saying “I’m funny” doesn’t count for anything! You need to actually display a sense of humor in your profile. This doesn’t always mean being funny, although if you can make her laugh, you are money! If you can’t make her laugh, then focus on displaying a more lighthearted sense of humor, showing her that you can joke about anything.
3. Effort in the profile – Doesn’t it kind of surprise you that women are turned on simply by guys who actually write a lot in their profile, demonstrating that they are willing to put effort into what they do? If you think about it, it actually makes sense... if you don’t put effort into the profile, you probably won’t put effort into much else in life either.
4. External interests – Women appreciate a man who cares about life outside himself, and takes interest or action in social, political, or environmental concerns. Caring about the local sports team doesn’t count, you need to display that you care for something above and beyond.
5. Masculine traits – Women love a manly man. Any way you can describe it in your profile, you’ll become more valuable to her. Remember, we are talking manly here, repairing a car counts, repairing your Playstation doesn’t. Climbing a mountain counts, playing Ultimate (sadly) doesn’t. Remember, illustrate each with an image filled description of a specific event!
Here are a few other traits that made the list:
- Upbeat, positive attitude
- Smiling in photos (this is massively important, guys!)
- Photos of you doing something fun/displaying a fun life
- Confidence without arrogance
- Passion or the pursuit of something (dreams, goals, aspirations)
Use this like a checklist, go over your profile and see how many of these you actually hit. If it isn’t all of them, it’s time to sit down and do a little more writing!
Cheers and happy dating!
Dylan Alexander
1. Spelling and punctuation – This won by a landslide. Good spelling and punctuation are a sign of intelligence and education, two prized traits for most women. This one is so easy to do too... simply write your profile in MS Word, and let it do all the work for you! You don’t need to know what a dangling participle is, but you’d sure better know the difference between “there”, “they’re”, and “their.”
2. A sense of humor – Saying “I’m funny” doesn’t count for anything! You need to actually display a sense of humor in your profile. This doesn’t always mean being funny, although if you can make her laugh, you are money! If you can’t make her laugh, then focus on displaying a more lighthearted sense of humor, showing her that you can joke about anything.
3. Effort in the profile – Doesn’t it kind of surprise you that women are turned on simply by guys who actually write a lot in their profile, demonstrating that they are willing to put effort into what they do? If you think about it, it actually makes sense... if you don’t put effort into the profile, you probably won’t put effort into much else in life either.
4. External interests – Women appreciate a man who cares about life outside himself, and takes interest or action in social, political, or environmental concerns. Caring about the local sports team doesn’t count, you need to display that you care for something above and beyond.
5. Masculine traits – Women love a manly man. Any way you can describe it in your profile, you’ll become more valuable to her. Remember, we are talking manly here, repairing a car counts, repairing your Playstation doesn’t. Climbing a mountain counts, playing Ultimate (sadly) doesn’t. Remember, illustrate each with an image filled description of a specific event!
Here are a few other traits that made the list:
- Upbeat, positive attitude
- Smiling in photos (this is massively important, guys!)
- Photos of you doing something fun/displaying a fun life
- Confidence without arrogance
- Passion or the pursuit of something (dreams, goals, aspirations)
Use this like a checklist, go over your profile and see how many of these you actually hit. If it isn’t all of them, it’s time to sit down and do a little more writing!
Cheers and happy dating!
Dylan Alexander
PS. Have you read Online Dating Profile Secrets? It's FREE. Go download it at http://www.onlinecasanova.com/
Thursday, May 8, 2008
Does Double Your Dating Work Online
"Does Double Your Dating Work Online?"
Best online dating headline I've written in a long while!
Sorry for the bait 'n switch, but this topic is about headlines, not Cocky/Funny!
I was skimming Plenty Of Fish recently, saw a Google Adword ad for Double Your Dating (an excellent book on dating for men by David DeAngelo) and had some inspiration. I popped on Craigslist, my site of choice for testing out new headlines, since readers don't get to see a thumbnail of your pic, just your headline only, and put up a quick profile.
I tried the following variations:
"Double Your Dating Scam"
"I just read Double Your Dating"
"Does Double Your Dating Work On Women"
and a bunch of others... with mild results.
"Does Double Your Dating Work Online" was the only one that pulled strong results, just because it grabs people's sense of curiosity! Of course, you've got to back it up with a fantastic opening paragraph, as your are essentially pulling a bait & switch on them (oops, like I did with you!) This is where you'd lose most readers, so your content has to be great.
Now, I should point out, Double Your Dating is a solid book for men who are getting back into the dating scene. I don't have any business ties to them, so you'll have to go find it on your own. :p
And finally... you never know what is going to make an excellent headline! Look for opportunity everywhere.
Check out my main site for further details about creating knockout headlines that suck people into reading your online dating profile.
http://www.onlinecasanova.com
Happy dating!
Dylan Alexander
Best online dating headline I've written in a long while!
Sorry for the bait 'n switch, but this topic is about headlines, not Cocky/Funny!
I was skimming Plenty Of Fish recently, saw a Google Adword ad for Double Your Dating (an excellent book on dating for men by David DeAngelo) and had some inspiration. I popped on Craigslist, my site of choice for testing out new headlines, since readers don't get to see a thumbnail of your pic, just your headline only, and put up a quick profile.
I tried the following variations:
"Double Your Dating Scam"
"I just read Double Your Dating"
"Does Double Your Dating Work On Women"
and a bunch of others... with mild results.
"Does Double Your Dating Work Online" was the only one that pulled strong results, just because it grabs people's sense of curiosity! Of course, you've got to back it up with a fantastic opening paragraph, as your are essentially pulling a bait & switch on them (oops, like I did with you!) This is where you'd lose most readers, so your content has to be great.
Now, I should point out, Double Your Dating is a solid book for men who are getting back into the dating scene. I don't have any business ties to them, so you'll have to go find it on your own. :p
And finally... you never know what is going to make an excellent headline! Look for opportunity everywhere.
Check out my main site for further details about creating knockout headlines that suck people into reading your online dating profile.
http://www.onlinecasanova.com
Happy dating!
Dylan Alexander
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