Thursday, February 14, 2008

Online Dating Email Mistakes



In Online Dating, email mistakes will kill you. How many emails have you written to women, without responses? Probably lots. But that’s Ok, I have too! However, once you understand the main reasons WHY she doesn’t write you back, you’ll be able to ramp up your email game and start to get a lot more replies!
Here are the six most common online dating email mistakes you will make.


1. You didn’t get her attention.
She gets a TON of emails. Hot women on busy sites can get easily over a hundred a day. That’s some serious competition! If you don’t get her attention fast, you’ll be forgotten instantly and she’ll move on without replying. And how do you do it? Be interesting, insightful, interested in her and funny as hell!

For other tips on how to write an email, go here:


2. She thinks you are shallow.
Hot women know that most guys are just contacting them because they are hot. As much as it’s an ego boost for them, knowing you think they are hot doesn’t them any real reason to write you back.
-Don’t ask for sexier photos of her.
-Don’t kiss her butt and tell her how hot she is over and over.
-Don’t ask her how much she weighs... EVER.
-Don’t ask for body shots of her (until several emails later)

There are tons of guys that do nothing but this. Don’t be one of them.

3. Your photo sucks.
I’m not saying YOU suck, just that YOUR PHOTOS suck. It doesn’t matter how great your email is, if your picture makes you look like a sack of crap, you aren’t getting a response. Before you start worrying about your looks, there are two things you need to know... First, a bad photo will make the hottest guy look ugly. Second, the right photo can make you look great. One great photo will make or break your online dating results.
Repeat after me “I will get a professional to take a headshot photo of me.”

For rules of how to have a great online dating photo, go here:
http://www.onlinecasanova.com/dating_photos.php


4. You were crass, rude or sexual.
A lot of things can turn a girl off, but few like being crass, rude or sexual. She’s a woman, not one of your buddies, so don’t try to get her attention by shock value. Yes, it works from time to time, but for the most part she’ll just delete your email.

-Don’t use any four letter words... you know the ones I mean.
-Don’t ask her what her favorite sex position is.
-Don’t ask her about her erotic fantasies.
-Don’t ask if she has any nude photos.

She gets enough of those emails every day.


5. You throw up her red flags.
She doesn’t want your baggage and insecurities. She definitely doesn’t want to hear you crying about them in your email. So forget even mentioning your ex, your problems, your addictions, your failures or your insecurities... Never email her more than once before she replies, you aren’t going to change her mind by looking needy.
-Don’t email her more than once in between her replies.
-Don’t talk about your exes.
-Don’t talk about the bad dates you have had.
-Don’t talk about why you think online dating sucks.

Besides, your potential partner will have lots of time to figure out what they don’t like about you on your first date! (That’s a joke people!)


6. She’s just not that into you.
No matter what you do, some girls just aren’t going to be that into you. Maybe she only dates short dorky poor guys, maybe you remind her of her brother, you’ll probably never know.

If you present yourself in your best light, have a great photo, display your personality and value as a man... and she still doesn’t email you back? It’s her, not you.

On the other hand, if your profile isn’t polished to perfection, you don’t have the best photo you could possibly have, and you aren’t writing emails that shine like diamonds against coal... you’ve got some work to do.

Where to start? First, sign up for my weekly online dating tip newsletter.

Then get yourself a copy of Online Casanova here:
http://www.onlinecasanova.com/
Cheers!
Dylan Alexander

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