This may sound like the dumbest headline you’ve ever read, but if you are like most people, you probably don’t really read your own profile. Sure, you proofread it, checking for spelling mistakes (I HOPE!) but you don’t actually read it as if you were a total stranger checking you out for the first time.
Sure, that’s hard to do, after all you are somewhat biased in favor of your profile, aren’t you? It is the masterpiece that is going to bring you your dream date, right?
Here are some tips to proofreading your profile...
1)
Does your profile show any personality? Read it and see if your personality comes through in your words. It needs to, as your profile has to be an extension of who you are, and a little bit of personality goes a long way in online dating. Otherwise, she will get bored reading it.
2)
Is the personality it shows reflective of who you really are? Your profile has to be YOU. It can’t be your James Bond alter ego and it can’t be an isolation of only one aspect of you. It has to be a broad look at you. Of course, it can be the BEST parts of you... but it still has to be accurate. Otherwise she will feel cheated when she meets you.
3)
Do you have a lot of strong visuals? Visualization leads to emotion and action. Do you describe yourself and your life visually through stories and images? Or do you do it in boring, bland adjectives like: I’m smart, funny, confident, rich, etc... that are guaranteed to make her move on to the next guy?
4)
What do you display of value to your reader? Remember, she’s here looking for what SHE wants, so the only important things in your profile are the ones that she will care about. Of everything you’ve written about yourself, what displays your inherent value as a man? If something doesn’t, it should be replaced.
5)
Do you help the reader contact you at the end? It is a stumbling block for a lot of online daters, so make sure you help them email you by including some motivation. Give them a short list of things you would like to know about them (choose wisely!) or maybe offer them a few tips on things they can ask you more about. Don’t simply write “if you like what you read, email me,” or most of your candidates will move on.
Now get writing!
Dylan Alexander
PS. I’m not going to be condescending by adding "spellchecking" to the list. That would be stupod.
PPS. Sales pitch time... I’ve got a 127 page book filled with tips and techniques like this. You know the website: http://www.onlinecasanova.com/
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